Lenaya's Friend Comments

Thank you for accepting my invite! :-)

Hi!! Thank you for accepting!

Spleen vented...and now 85% less cranky.

Kay, can't find my blog so here it is:

"We complain about men. We complain about men a lot. We blame them for objectification and the unreal media expectations. We say that they either want to infantilise or brutalize us. We blame them for our unhappiness in whichever relationship we happen to be in at the moment. But the truth. We do this to ourselves. The unrealistic expectations and objectification . . . women’s magazines, reinforced by women’s fiction and chick flicks; often written and promoted by . . . you got it . . . other women. As for infantilisation and brutalization . . . have you seen Lifetime TV, the WB or any ‘women’s’ television show? And again, reinforced by popular women’s fiction . . . written by whom? Women.

And I admit . . . I get into my Markie Post-Judith Light-Lifetime Movie marathon moods just like everyone else. It’s just. . .am I wrong or is insipid victimization our most prevalent form of escapist entertainment?"

What is really troubling about today's feminism...is the determination to shrink from personal responsibility, courage and adulthood. It is this kind of thinking which leads women to call for curtailing the freedom of speech of others and attempting to decide for all of us, what kind of opinions are "unacceptable" and from whom.

If you don't like someone's review, don't read it. There's no need to start up a firestorm of defensive aggression around it.

What I kind of love about of craziness that has surrounded the GFY trope; is that somehow some people see the opinions of gay males as 'policing' or 'dictating' the sexuality of women; while completely ignoring the voices of queer women who have attempted to voice their own concerns about this trope.

What of women like me, who find the idea that I need to be 'protected' from the "unacceptable" opinions of LGBQT men offensive, condescending and matriarchal? If I weren't straight I'd be livid . . . actually, I'm pretty damn livid anyway. Imagine being invited to a round table discussion of which you are the topic but are vastly outnumbered; and then being told that your opinions are "hostile", "policing" and "dictatorial". How would that feel? Particularly if you've been getting calls all week telling you why you "shouldn't be offended".

I swear, if there is a phrase sure to blow my pressure gauge, it's that one. Since when do I need permission from white, straight women to be offended? What frame of reference could possibly exist in their lives which compares to my day-to-day reality that gives them the ability to recognize the things which should or should not be offensive to me? Check. Your damn. Privilege.

Gahhhhhh....I'm trying to write a blog post...but shiny things!

Very sleeeeepy. But writing again, which is good. I just need to contact my partner in order to push the deadline. It takes a while sometimes to find that hook...the thing that will allow me to enter the story and start,the characters speaking to each other.

Saturday before last, the hook appeared in the form of a secondary character. I suddenly realized that her motivations are what drive the plot of the first episode. Et voila! I'm hearing the voices in,my head! The characters' voices....not the other kind.

Happiness is Indian food in the fridge and a kitty to curl up with.

Thanks for the friendvite! I'm sure we'll have lots to talk about. :)

Thanks for the friend-vite looking forward to chatting more with you x

Vivian wrote: "Thanks for the invite, Pendragonish. We have a lot of book choices in common. Look forward to chatting books."
We do, don't we? I have enjoyed your reviews for a long time! Thank you for accepting.

And a demoralizing GR eve too you, too...flounces off to reread Force of Law 'cause reasons and...science...classified scientific reasons.

Thanks for the invite, Pendragonish. We have a lot of book choices in common. Look forward to chatting books.

Oh and my cat just misjudged the jump to the bed and then started talking to me like I'm the confused one. The world has gone mad.
mad

Was innocently browsing kindle's classics category when my head exploded. It is rife! Rife, I tell you with what they call 'Pride and Prejudice variations' and other horse nuggetry.

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