Travis Erdmann

“The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.”
― Gabor Maté

“Much of what we call personality is not a fixed set of traits, only coping mechanisms a person acquired in childhood.”
― Gabor Maté, When the Body Says No

“Not why the addiction but why the pain.”
― Gabor Maté

“Emotional competence requires • the capacity to feel our emotions, so that we are aware when we are experiencing stress; • the ability to express our emotions effectively and thereby to assert our needs and to maintain the integrity of our emotional boundaries; • the facility to distinguish between psychological reactions that are pertinent to the present situation and those that represent residue from the past. What we want and demand from the world needs to conform to our present needs, not to unconscious, unsatisfied needs from childhood. If distinctions between past and present blur, we will perceive loss or the threat of loss where none exists; and • the awareness of those genuine needs that do require satisfaction, rather than their repression for the sake of gaining the acceptance or approval of others. Stress occurs in the absence of these criteria, and it leads to the disruption of homeostasis. Chronic disruption results in ill health.”
― Gabor Maté, When the Body Says No