Márcia Oliveira

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Marshall B. Rosenberg
“Like money, approval from others is a form of extrinsic reward. Our culture has educated us to hunger for reward. We attended schools that used extrinsic means to motivate us to study; we grew up in homes where we were rewarded for being good little boys and girls, and were punished when our caretakers judged us to be otherwise. Thus, as adults, we easily trick ourselves into believing that life consists of doing things for reward; we are addicted to getting a smile, a pat on the back, and people’s verbal judgments that we are a “good person,” “good parent,” “good citizen,” “good worker,” “good friend,” and so forth. We do things to get people to like us and avoid things that may lead people to dislike or punish us.”
Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships

Amir Levine
“With avoidants, everyday interactions and conversations, whether they’re about which channel to watch on TV or how to raise the kids, are actually negotiations for space and independence. You often wind up complying with their wishes—because otherwise they will withdraw. Research shows that avoidants hardly ever date one another. They simply lack the glue that keeps things together.”
Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

Amir Levine
“Also, people with different attachment styles tend to explain why they are still alone in a different manner: People who are anxious often feel that there is something wrong with them; secures will have a more realistic view of things, and avoidants often sound like Paul—they attribute their single status to external circumstances, such as not having met the right girl.”
Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

David Richo
“Mindfulness is an ancient meditation mode in which we let go of our fears, our attachments to control and being right, our expectations and entitlements, and our judgments of others.”
David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

David Richo
“Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.”
David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

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