Winter

“Those who believe their suffering has been valuable love more readily than those who see no meaning in their pain.
Suffering does not necessarily imply love, but love implies suffering”
― Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

“I realized that I had demanded that my parents accept me but had resisted accepting them.”
― Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

“If we tolerate prejudice toward any group, we tolerate it toward all groups,” he said. “I couldn’t have relationships that were conditional on excluding my brother—or anyone else. We are all in one fight, and our freedom is all the same freedom.”
― Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

“Perhaps the immutable error of parenthood is that we give our children what we wanted, whether they want it or not. We heal our wounds with the love we wish we’d received, but are often blind to the wounds we inflict.”
― Andrew Solomon, Far From The Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity