Amber

“Witnesses.
Help us see how others see.
Help us see ourselves from another
vantage point,
a larger landscape,
a different view.

Witnesses.
Reality checks.
Mirrors.
Cameras.
Other lenses.
Different views.

They can save us from our worst possible choices
or from participating in someone else's.”
― Shellen Lubin

“If the voices and perspectives we assess ourselves by
are stuck in systems of their own
they can be another trap.
If they're stuck in their own agendas--
their needs and desires--
then they're another "wicked temptation"
to sell out our deepest truths
to please or pacify someone else.

Which is why I advocate multiple mirrors,
offering different ways of seeing,
of feeling,
of processing,
angles and views we might otherwise miss,
and
reminding us to revere just how complex reality is.”
― Shellen Lubin

“There are all kinds of ignorance that are insidious.
Most involve not asking the right questions,
or not questioning the assumptions in the questions themselves.

We can do better.”
― Shellen Lubin

“I remember a study that was done in the seventies (a study I've been trying to find unsuccessfully since the advent of the internet). It was a study of psychologists and psychiatrists, not of patients. They filled out three questionnaires, true or false questions. One was for the traits of a healthy man, next was for traits of a healthy woman, the third for traits of a healthy human being. The traits of a healthy man and human were the same, but a healthy woman was very different. Completely different. You know--softer, sweeter, more empathetic, less self-centered, less ambitious, more dependent. And these were the people who were treating people who were trying to live healthy lives.”
― Shellen Lubin