Amber

“If the voices and perspectives we assess ourselves by
are stuck in systems of their own
they can be another trap.
If they're stuck in their own agendas--
their needs and desires--
then they're another "wicked temptation"
to sell out our deepest truths
to please or pacify someone else.

Which is why I advocate multiple mirrors,
offering different ways of seeing,
of feeling,
of processing,
angles and views we might otherwise miss,
and
reminding us to revere just how complex reality is.”
― Shellen Lubin

“Witnesses.
Help us see how others see.
Help us see ourselves from another
vantage point,
a larger landscape,
a different view.

Witnesses.
Reality checks.
Mirrors.
Cameras.
Other lenses.
Different views.

They can save us from our worst possible choices
or from participating in someone else's.”
― Shellen Lubin

“There are all kinds of ignorance that are insidious.
Most involve not asking the right questions,
or not questioning the assumptions in the questions themselves.

We can do better.”
― Shellen Lubin

“This is one of the harshest after effects of the pandemic
that I am witnessing some
and experiencing some,
a diminished ability to deal with resistance,
and so
a willingness to stay in one place for too long,
shut off from the outside world,
nose in phone or binge-watching
some show
when once upon a time
we used to have to wait a week for the next installment
and discussed it with colleagues over water coolers
and over landlines with friends.

We need colleagues.
We need friends.”
― Shellen Lubin