Mailli Brown

“How often has a spouse appeared kind, hardworking, even sacrificial, but in private indulged in unwanted sexual behavior? The issue may be hypocrisy, but far more often, the person is recreating the original dynamics from childhood. The script he received was to present a tame and sacrificial version of himself to the world. Tragically, his sexual desire and personal opinions remain buried. Devoid of care, his thoughts and emotions were unable to mature.”
― Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

“Lust blooms in the soil of disengagement. Disengagement plants the seeds of lust because the child, who is made to experience tenderness and delight, recognizes that familial love is not something that can be depended on.”
― Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

“The madness that most people find, however, is that the solutions we pursue apart from God and community leave us more alone than we were at the beginning. Here, we double down our bet on lust and end up bankrupt.”
― Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

“This is the razor edge of recovery: Your unwanted sexual behavior must change, but it also needs to be honored as a symbol of all the unprocessed anger of living in a dysfunctional system.”
― Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing