Jennifer Fei

“So many of us have a deep aversion to asking for help. The idea of asking for help makes us feel like a failure, makes us feel weak. We often think of needing help as a burden. But that is toxic individualism talking! It’s telling us that we should be able to do it on our own, that if we were strong enough, good enough, and capable enough, we wouldn’t need help.”
― Mia Birdsong, How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

“we should remember that giving can be transformative for the helper.… By not asking for help when you need it, you are blocking that flow.”
― Mia Birdsong, How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

“Weakness is treating someone as though they belong to you. Strength is knowing that everyone belongs to themselves.”
― Yaa Gyasi, Homegoing

“Not queer like gay; queer like escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness all at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like, and to pursue it.”
― Mia Birdsong, How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community