Greenprarie

“People who refuse to let go often make small requests that appear reasonable, like Tommy’s letter of reference, though the real purpose of such requests is to cement attachment or gain new reasons for contact.”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

“A woman is expected, first and foremost, to respond to every communication from a man.”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

“That’s what happens when you’re angry at people. You make them part of your life.” —Garrison Keillor In”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

“This list reminds us that before our next breakfast, another twelve women will be killed—mothers, sisters, daughters. In almost every case, the violence that preceded the final violence was a secret kept by several people. This list can say to women who are in that situation that they must get out. It can say to police officers who might not arrest that they must arrest, to doctors who might not notify that they must notify. It can say to prosecutors that they must file charges. It can say to neighbors who might ignore violence that they must not. It”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence