Slava Soloviev

“Relationships abhor a vacuum. Whenever one person refuses to mark and fight for their territory the other person will occupy the treasured ground either by default or by committing an act of aggression.”
― Kilroy J. Oldster, Dead Toad Scrolls

“Also the natural sexual functions of establishing an intimate human contact frequently assume greater proportions. This is a well known fact about detached people for whom sexuality may be the only bridge to others, but it is not restricted to being an obvious substitute for human closeness. It shows also in the haste with which people may rush into sexual relations, without giving themselves a chance to find out whether they have anything in common or a chance to develop a liking and understanding. It is possible of course that an emotional relatedness may evolve later on. But more often than not it does not do so because usually the initial rush itself is a sign of their being too inhibited to develop a good human relationship.”
― Karen Horney, Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Towards Self-Realization

“Two married partners do not just live with each other, they live in each other, neurologically speaking.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“More often than not, it’s disrespectful to them (our children) - and disrespectful to their struggle with their tasks in life- if our own anxiety as parents makes us cling to our children. It’s disrespectful is we demand more intimacy than they are willing or able to give. Too much involvement with our children is not an act of love- it’s an act of selfishness.”
― Daniel Gottlieb, Voices in the Family: A Therapist Talks About Listening, Openness, and Healing