Emma Power

“A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

“Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

“Martians have a win/lose philosophy—I want to win, and I don’t care if you lose. As long as each Martian took care of himself this formula worked fine. It worked for centuries, but now it needed to be changed. Giving primarily to themselves was no longer as satisfying. Being in love, they wanted the Venusians to win as much as themselves. In most sports today we can see an extension of this Martian competitive code. For example, in tennis I not only want to win but also try to make my friend lose by making it difficult for him to return my shots. I enjoy winning even though my friend loses. Most of these Martian attitudes have a place in life, but this win/lose attitude becomes harmful in our adult relationships. If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex