Rihard Novačan
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“One of the reasons a survivor finds it so difficult to see herself as a victim is that she has been blamed repeatedly for the abuse: "If you weren't such a whore, this wouldn't have to happen." Each time she is used and trashed, she becomes further convinced of her innate badness. She sees herself participating in forbidden sexual activity and may often get some sense of gratification from it even if she doesn't want to (it is, after all, a form of touch, and our bodies respond without the consent of our wills). This is seen as further proof that the abuse is her fault and well deserved. In her mind, she has become responsible for the actions of her abusers. She believes she is not a victim; she is a loathsome, despicable, worthless human being—if indeed she even qualifies as human. When the abuse has been sadistic in nature...these beliefs are futher entrenched.”
― Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse
― Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
― The Light in the Heart
― The Light in the Heart
“I wanted to push away the very thing I wanted. Have you ever had that feeling? Was it because you were so afraid that you wouldn’t get it? Or because you were afraid you would, but deep down didn’t feel you deserved it?”
― Before the Footprints Fade
― Before the Footprints Fade
“Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life.”
― The Light in the Heart
― The Light in the Heart
“Kindness is not a business. True kindness expects nothing in return and should never act with conditions.”
― The Light in the Heart
― The Light in the Heart
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