“The misconception of equating ease of life with “passing” must be dismantled in our culture. The work begins by each of us recognizing that cis people are not more valuable or legitimate and that trans people who blend as cis are not more valuable or legitimate. We must recognize, discuss, and dismantle this hierarchy that polices bodies and values certain ones over others. We must recognize that we all have different experiences of oppression and privilege, and I recognize that my ability to blend as cis is one conditional privilege that does not negate the fact that I experience the world as a trans woman (with my own fears, insecurities, and body-image issues) no matter how attractive people may think I am.”
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
“This pervasive idea that trans women deserve violence needs to be abolished. It’s a socially sanctioned practice of blaming the victim. We must begin blaming our culture, which stigmatizes, demeans, and strips trans women of their humanity.”
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
“Though I would grow up to fit neatly into the binary, I believe in self-determination, autonomy, in people having the freedom to proclaim who they are and define gender for themselves. Our genders are as unique as we are. No one’s definition is the same, and compartmentalizing a person as either a boy or a girl based entirely on the appearance of genitalia at birth undercuts our complex life experiences.”
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
― Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
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