“We never break, although we imagine we are breaking. Our illusions break, and all our denial and all our demands cannot put our fantasies together again. And when our denial breaks, the grief and rage start to flow. In this outpouring, the fire of feelings doesn’t burn us; it burns up our illusions.”
― The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face the Truth, Accept Yourself, and Create a Better Life
― The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face the Truth, Accept Yourself, and Create a Better Life
“Embracing life on its own terms can be difficult. As we embrace life as it is, our illusions collapse. We need emotional courage to bear the pain without running, explaining, or justifying.”
― The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face the Truth, Accept Yourself, and Create a Better Life
― The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face the Truth, Accept Yourself, and Create a Better Life
“The more you try to avoid suffering, the more you suffer, because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you, in proportion to your fear of being hurt. The one who does most to avoid suffering is, in the end, the one who suffers most.”
― The Seven Storey Mountain
― The Seven Storey Mountain
“What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love.”
― The Brothers Karamazov
― The Brothers Karamazov
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