Jen

“Don’t worry, as you realize by now, getting tested is a good thing. It means a woman is interested in you or wants to be stimulated by you. Read that sentence again.”
― Bruce Bryans, What Women Want When They Test Men: How to Decode Female Behavior, Pass a Woman’s Tests, and Attract Women Through Authenticity

“Charm is another overrated ability. Note that I called it an ability, not an inherent feature of one’s personality. Charm is almost always a directed instrument, which, like rapport-building, has motive. To charm is to compel, to control by allure or attraction. Think of charm as a verb, not a trait. If you consciously tell yourself, “This person is trying to charm me” as opposed to, “This person is charming,” you’ll be able to see around it.”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

“Interestingly enough, commitment tests usually only show up when a woman begins to feel that your loyalty to her is threatened. If she begins to feel as if your priorities are elsewhere, that you’ve lost interest in her, or that she can be easily replaced at the drop of a dime she’s going to start throwing commitment tests at you in order to ease her insecurities.”
― Bruce Bryans, What Women Want When They Test Men: How to Decode Female Behavior, Pass a Woman’s Tests, and Attract Women Through Authenticity

“I don't think she's being mysterious on purpose. It's like she can't help it. She's not shy--she'll talk to anyone--and she's not exactly distant, but even so, she's unreachable, as if there's an invisible fence around her, or a force field the repels whatever gets too close.”
― Sue Halpern, Summer Hours at the Robbers Library