Erin Mcdougald

“Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“The central attitudes driving Mr. Right are:
You should be in awe of my intelligence and should look up to me intellectually. I know better than you do, even about what’s good for you.
Your opinions aren’t worth listening to carefully or taking seriously.
The fact that you sometimes disagree with me shows how sloppy your thinking is.
If you would just accept that I know what’s right, our relationship would go much better. Your own life would go better, too.
When you disagree with me about something, no matter how respectfully or meekly, that’s mistreatment of me.
If I put you down for long enough, some day you’ll see.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“I feel more passionately about the importance of healing from our abuse issues. I feel more passionately. I’ve become more spontaneous, embraced my femininity, and learned new lessons along the way—about boundaries, flexibility, and owning my power. And about love. I’m learning to respect men. My relationships have deepened. Some have changed.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself