“We are afraid that our adult sexuality will somehow damage our kids, that it’s inappropriate or dangerous. But whom are we protecting? Children who see their primary caregivers at ease expressing their affection (discreetly, within appropriate boundaries) are more likely to embrace sexuality with the healthy combination of respect, responsibility, and curiosity it deserves. By censoring our sexuality, curbing our desires, or renouncing them altogether, we hand our inhibitions intact to the next generation.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
“The more we trust, the farther we are able to venture.”
― Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
― Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
“Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
“Everyone should cultivate a secret garden.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
“Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it rightfully falls within our jurisdiction.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
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