Kenneth Ng

“Quality conversation is quite different from the first love language. Words of affirmation focus on what we are saying, whereas quality conversation focuses on what we are hearing. If I am sharing my love for you by means of quality time and we are going to spend that time in conversation, it means I will focus on drawing you out, listening sympathetically to what you have to say. I will ask questions, not in a badgering manner but with a genuine desire to understand your thoughts, feelings, and desires.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

“When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more. If you do him a good turn, you will find yourself disliking him less.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

“Now I realize that she didn’t want advice when she told me about her struggles at work. She wanted sympathy. She wanted me to listen, to give her attention, to let her know that I could understand the hurt, the stress, the pressure. She wanted to know that I loved her and that I was with her. She didn’t want advice; she just wanted to know that I understood.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

“When an action does not come naturally to you it is a greater expression of love.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate