“You learn to live with it, with them. Because they do stay with you, even if they’re not living, breathing people any more.
It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead.
It’s just something you learn to accommodate.
Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun”
― After You
It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead.
It’s just something you learn to accommodate.
Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun”
― After You
“No journey out of grief was straightforward. There would be good days and bad days.”
― After You
― After You
“You never know what will happen when you fall from a great height.”
― After You
― After You
“You don't have to let that one thing be the thing that defines you.”
― After You
― After You
“It is important not to turn the dead into saints. Nobody can walk in the shadow of a saint.”
― After You
― After You
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