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“Our ability to give and respond to love is our greatest gift. The heart that God has fashioned in his image is the center of our being.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

“Forgiveness gives me boundaries because it unhooks me from the hurtful person, and then I can act responsibly, wisely. If I am not forgiving them, I am still in a destructive relationship with them.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

“True intimacy is only built around the freedom to disagree.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

“Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. By this time, they should have mastered the following tasks:

1. The ability to be emotionally attached to others, yet without giving up a sense of self and one‘s freedom to be apart,

2. The ability to say appropriate no's to others without fear of loss of love,

3. The ability to take appropriate no's from others without withdrawing emotionally.

Noting these tasks, a friend said half-joking, "They need to learn this by age three? How about by fourty-three?" Yes, these are tall orders but boundary development is essential in the early years of life.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life