Celena Morgan

“spirituality. In healthy intimate relationships we do not seek more than 25 percent of our nurturance from a partner; we learn to find the rest within ourselves.”
― David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

“We do not eliminate transference; we decant it. We do not kill it as David killed Goliath. We wrestle with it respectfully as did Jacob with the angel, until it yields its blessing. The blessing is the revelation of what we missed or lost and the grace to grieve it rather than transfer it. We feel a momentum to mourn all those who did not make time for us, to let go of their importance to us, to go on with life no longer determined or unduly influenced by what others choose to do. We then find satisfying sources of need-fulfillment in ourselves and in other humans who can be there for us most of the time and not there sometimes. And in a yes to that, we have all we need.”
― David Richo, When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

“Thus, we strive for intimacy with the whole universe, not just with one person.”
― David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

“We don’t fear physical closeness because we fear proximity itself. Most of us earnestly want physical contact with those who love us. Rather we fear what we will feel when we get too close. The real fear, then, is of ourselves. This fear is not something to rebuke ourselves for. It is our deepest vulnerability, the very quality that makes us most lovable.”
― David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving