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“What does the narcissistic person need?” The answer is control, domination, power, admiration, and validation. How they go about getting that is where the narcissistic abuse comes in.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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“Dismissiveness often foreshadows contempt and an absolute disregard and disdain for you and anything that matters to you.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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“One of the great traps of the narcissistic relationship is that the narcissistic folks actually believe they are nice people. They really do. It’s part of their system of delusional grandiosity, self-righteousness, and moral rectitude.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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“The dance between the narcissistic reactive sensitivity to feedback, their need for reassurance and chronic sense that they are a victim, and their shame and subsequent rage at having these vulnerabilities reminds us of the essence of narcissistic relationships: you can’t win.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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“Radical acceptance of the injustice is part of this process-it not fair, I cannot change it; I can, however, chart a different and authentic course forward and learn from this. Be kind to yourself, take a breath or a rest, and recognize that with time your growth and healing will supplant this injustice, but for now it needs to be grieved.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

tags: advice, healing, radical-acceptance

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