Safiya B

“The pain of her letting me go so easily.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“She might hate your partner. But she might not … Here’s the thing. She wants you weak and scared and isolated and vulnerable. She does not want you to be strong and empowered. So if you get together with a partner who empowers you and supports you and is good to you, she may well hate that, and may do all in her power to sabotage that relationship. Get together with a narcissist or other abuser though, and she’s quite happy …”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“In a million ways, a million times, you were told and taught and shown that you did not matter and had no value. And you believed it. And you brought that feeling into your adult life.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“Even though I know that this hope that my mother will love me, and be the kind, loving, interested, nurturing mother that I so want, need, and deserve … even though that hope is a vain one, and I know it’s a vain one, it’s too hard to let it go. The alternative is accepting that I will never, ever have a mother, and that’s too hard for me to face. Even though I just cannot let go of this hope – no matter that I know it would free me – I love and accept myself anyway. Even though I keep clinging to this hope, despite everything, despite all the evidence, and I know it’s not doing me any favours, I love and accept myself anyway.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers