Safiya B

“The pain of this rejection is so deep.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“She’s a master of projection. 'Projection' in this context means the psychological tendency to see one's undesirable traits in another. And narcissists cannot, of course, bear to own their undesirable traits, so they have to get rid of them, so to speak, as soon as possible. So they hand them to the nearest recipient who'll take them. And their children are of course very handy for this, as they unquestioningly believe their parents.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“Being raised by a narcissist is a special kind of crazy. It is a pure and lasersharp form of psychological and emotional abuse. But even more devastatingly, it is an invisible abuse. Neither the perpetrator nor the victim even knows it‟s happening. The perpetrator, the narcissist, doesn‟t think she‟s abusing anyone because, by definition, she‟s perfect, remember, and perfect people don‟t do imperfect things like abuse people. And the abuse victim, the daughter – this would be you – doesn‟t realise she‟s abused because she believes her mother‟s lies and thinks that everything is her fault, that she is the one who is broken.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother! Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“Even though I know that this hope that my mother will love me, and be the kind, loving, interested, nurturing mother that I so want, need, and deserve … even though that hope is a vain one, and I know it’s a vain one, it’s too hard to let it go. The alternative is accepting that I will never, ever have a mother, and that’s too hard for me to face. Even though I just cannot let go of this hope – no matter that I know it would free me – I love and accept myself anyway. Even though I keep clinging to this hope, despite everything, despite all the evidence, and I know it’s not doing me any favours, I love and accept myself anyway.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers