Safiya B

“The pain of this rejection is so deep.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“In a million ways, a million times, you were told and taught and shown that you did not matter and had no value. And you believed it. And you brought that feeling into your adult life.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“She might hate your partner. But she might not … Here’s the thing. She wants you weak and scared and isolated and vulnerable. She does not want you to be strong and empowered. So if you get together with a partner who empowers you and supports you and is good to you, she may well hate that, and may do all in her power to sabotage that relationship. Get together with a narcissist or other abuser though, and she’s quite happy …”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

“She’s a master of projection. 'Projection' in this context means the psychological tendency to see one's undesirable traits in another. And narcissists cannot, of course, bear to own their undesirable traits, so they have to get rid of them, so to speak, as soon as possible. So they hand them to the nearest recipient who'll take them. And their children are of course very handy for this, as they unquestioningly believe their parents.”
― Danu Morrigan, You're Not Crazy—It's Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers