“Grace is what matters, in anything... That's a quality I admire quite greatly. It keeps you from reaching for the gun too quickly, keeps you from destroying things too foolishly. It keeps you alive and it keeps you open for more understanding.”
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“psychoanalysis gets interesting when it shifts the focus from making us more intelligible to ourselves to helping us become more curious about how strange we really are. And so, I would argue, does art.”
― The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning
― The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning
“We may believe that anxiety and fear don't concern us because we avoid experiencing them. We may keep the scope of our lives narrow and familiar, opting for sameness and safety. We may not even know that we are scared of success, failure, rejection, criticism, conflict, competition, intimacy, or adventure, because we rarely test the limits of our competence and creativity. We avoid anxiety by avoiding risk and change. Our challenge: To be willing to become more anxious, via embracing new situations and stepping more fully into our lives.”
― The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self
― The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self
“To listen with an open heart and ask questions to better help us understand the other person is a spiritual exercise, in the truest sense of the word.”
― Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
― Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
“But one of the hallmarks of emotional maturity is to recognize the validity of multiple realities and to understand that people think, feel, and react differently. Often we behave as if “closeness” means “sameness.”
― The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
― The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
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