Terence Kong

“If feelings are left out of it, both sides can get more and more heated as they play what I call “fact tennis,” lobbing reasons over the net to each other, finding more and more to hit the other person with. In this style of arguing, the aim of the conflict becomes to win points rather than find a workable solution. Finding out about differences and working through them is about understanding and compromise, not about winning.”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read:

“How we feel about ourselves and how much responsibility we take for how we react to our children are key aspects of parenting that are too often overlooked because it’s much easier to focus instead on our children and their behaviors rather than examining how they affect us and then how we in turn affect them. And it is not only how we respond to children that shapes their personality traits and character but also what they witness and feel in their environment. I”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read:

“Life really does favor the obsessed. Great fortune truly does shine on those mesmerized by their gorgeous ambitions. And the universe most definitely supports the human being unwilling to surrender to the forces of fear, rejection and self-doubt.”
― Robin S. Sharma, The Everyday Hero Manifesto: Activate Your Positivity, Maximize Your Productivity, Serve The World

“Remember: when there is a problem, do not just concentrate on the child and do not think the problem just lies with them. Look at your relationship and what’s happening between you. That’s where you’ll find your answer.”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read [and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did]