“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
― South of the Border, West of the Sun
― South of the Border, West of the Sun
“Many partners of addicts have told me they feel bad about themselves for staying in the relationship because of the betrayal they’ve experienced. They imagine that the people who know their past judge them to be stupid for staying with the person who’s caused them so much pain. I often counter this thinking, explaining that leaving may seem quick and easy because they can pretend they’re okay and the problem has disappeared. However, if you leave your relationship, you’ll be stuck with your pain and sorrow without the person you loved to help you sort it out. Why is this true? Because even though it feels as if your pain comes from your partner, it’s actually coming from inside you.”
― Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
― Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
“When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to you!”
― When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal
― When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal
“When would he realize that it wasn't his infidelity I couldn't bear, but his cowardice?”
― Sarah's Key
― Sarah's Key
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