Guoda

“Your idea about what your life is about, or should be like, occurs even before your life has had a chance to unfold. So much time that hasn't had the opportunity to present itself you spend in efforts trying to make space ahead fill in exactly the way you hope it might. So what is the point in having that time? Or being in it at all?”
― Sheila Heti, Motherhood

“...what good does it do to me to be suspicious or to doubt? That is causing myself pain in advance of any real pain.”
― Sheila Heti, Motherhood

“We turn our love backwards to make sense of life, to make beauty and significance of our mother's life. Maybe motherhood means honoring one's mother. Many people do that by becoming mothers. They do it by having children. They do it by imitating what their mother has done. By imitating and honoring what their mother has done, this makes them a mother.”
― Sheila Heti, Motherhood

“Being a woman, you can't just say you don't want a child. You have to have some big plan or idea of what you're going to do instead. And it better be something great. And you had better be able to tell it convincingly - before it even happens - what the arc of your life will be.”
― Sheila Heti, Motherhood