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I don’t think I’ll ever love any series more than Shadowhunters 🥹🩷 So thankful to Netgalley for an e-book, but I need my hands on this one ASAP.

“Grief isn’t the villain. It just wants to help you remember that despite losing someone, despite the sadness and heartache and pain… there was also once love.”

“Letting go isn’t losing.
Letting go is liberation.”

“The pity would be to waste the periods of bleakness rather than to use them. Just as in winter, when the ground needed to be tilled and the dead trees pruned, the hopeless seasons of life were a chance to grapple with the hard soil of his heart and let the sadness hit him like the sharp edge of a hoe, loosening and breaking apart the unyielding ground there.”

This title is absolutely poetic, and I immediately am hooked by this one. It opens up discussing synesthesia- not in a way I can relate to, but still interesting to read. This author’s experience is centered around numbers.

“For a while, for months or years even, practice might seem to work this way. It might come to represent a world apart from our daily life, a kind of sanctuary. But eventually the moment arrives when you look down and realize this is not where you get away from your inner demons. It is where you face them.”

“Our past is not our destiny. Our power to change is now. The power within is engaged by affirming our worthiness and lovability, updating our beliefs, feeling our true feelings, and choosing thoughts that are more uplifting and healing.”

“But yesterday as I stepped into Observing Self, I clearly saw that I was never supposed to be fixing myself. I was meant to learn what wound I have been covering up by burning myself out.”

Already tearing up in the second poem with the line, “They don’t even know they have wings.”

"dreams don't change, we just pretend we don't want them anymore"

If you loved Poet X, this is a must-read!

“He had set my heart aflame, and if he did not soon return to contain the fire, all I would be left with was a chest full of ash.”

“Trauma causes people to remain stuck in interpreting the present in light of an unchanging past.”

“Trauma makes people feel like either some body else, or like no body. In order to overcome trauma, you need help to get back in touch with your body, with your self.”

A person who does not consciously remember a traumatic experience is more likely to "act out" because their body still holds the memory of the trauma, even if their mind cannot access it, leading to unconscious physical and emotional reactions in response to triggers.

“She makes that silly flower again and again, yet she does not understand that it would not have died had it not been beautiful enough to be picked in the first place.”

“Write me a story where there is no ending… Write to me and fill my empty spaces.”

"To ignorant men, every gifted woman is a witch."

I liked this one so much, I’m reading it again 🙈

“The same universe that dispassionately takes things away can bring you things you weren’t imaginative enough to dream up.” - Funny Story, Emily Henry 💕

“You can’t force a person to show up, but you can learn a lesson when they don’t.

Trust people’s actions, not their words. Don’t love anyone who isn’t ready to love you back. Let go of the people who don’t hold on to you. Don’t wait on anyone who’s in no rush to get to you.”

“While the majority of neurotypical people have the ability to block out sensory information and give selective attention to only what is needed, many autistic people cannot filter their senses as quickly or easily. Autistic people can have difficulty with sensory processing because their nervous systems just take all of it in.“

“For many autistic people, the thalamus works differently, and filtering information can be difficult. Some autistic people might try hard to listen to you, but any background noise will be given the same amount of attention as your voice… Some people are unable to buffer the torrent of sensory information in certain environments, and when the brain does not filter the information, it becomes overloaded.”

“For autistic people, interests are not just hobbies; they are central to their well-being. Sometimes called obsessions or restricted, circumscribed, or specialized interests, these intense passions are a core and extremely common aspect of autism… This establishes familiar structure, order, and certainty- all qualities that an autistic brain loves.”

“Autism should never be something you apologize for.”

“But over the course of my life, I’ve come to understand that this uniqueness relates to how our brains work. Autistic and neurodivergent people are wired differently from neurotypical people, and in these differences lie many lessons about how our perceptions and views of the world are constructed.

Who you are is shaped by your thoughts.”

“… The signs were there. I mourn not being able to decipher them before. Instead, I repressed everything that was true in me and kept striving towards further defeat. If I had known, many mistakes could have been avoided. There would have been fewer blocks of stone in the road. Having grown up with undiagnosed autism is to have different difficulties that didn’t (need to) exist.“