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The capacity to love - the opposite of narcissism - is the capacity to see other people, their lives and feeling, as real. We have to hear, see, feel the beloved's reality.

"Optimism and faith is not enough; terrible things do happen, but that doesn't mean that you have to live in a constant state of fear. If you do, the bad things might still happen anyway, but you wouldn't have enjoyed all the pleasures of being alive."

To give the person you love the gift of spaciousness. To not lean wholly on them, but to stand beside them.

"The healthiest couples are those who can argue without feeling threatened, come back together quickly after an argument and see the conversation on context."

It is not admiring flowers from afar, it's the act of nurturing them so they dont die. It's an 'attitude', a 'power of soul'. A love.

"I think all love begins with imagination and fear"

Falling in love is like two stones rubbing together until they suddenly fit. When you change alongside another person, that's mutual impact, because youre not putting on an act to please anyone.
Instead, youre growing, individually and together.

When you like who you are with another person, you realized how important it is to be around people who make you feel that way