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“Is there a satisfaction in the effort of remembering that provides its own nourishment, and is what one recollects less important than the act of remembering? That is another question that will remain unanswered: I feel as though I am made of nothing else.”

“I realised then that I never thought about the past. I lived in a perpetual present and I was gradually forgetting my story.”

“Admittedly, we were all caught up in the same drama that was so powerful, so all-embracing that I was unaware of anything that wasn’t related to it, but I had come to think that I was different. And now, racked with sobs, I was forced to acknowledge too late, much too late, that I too had loved, that I was capable of suffering and that I was human after all.”

PTSD patients with severe early life trauma was startling. There was almost no activation of any of the self sensing areas of the brain the MPFC interior singlet the cortex, and the insula did not light up at all the only area that showed a slight activation was the posterior cingulate, which is responsible for basic orientation in space

Chronic emotional abuse and neglect can be just as devastating as physical abuse and sexual molestation

If the memory of trauma is encoded in the viscera, in heartbreaking and gut- wrenching emotions, in autoimmune disorders and skeletal/muscular problems, and if mind/brain/visceral communication is the royal road to emotional regulation, this demands a radical shift in our therapeutic assumptions

One thing is certain: yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation. Just as your dog cowers if you shout and wags his tail when you speak in high sing song, we humans respond to harsh voices with fear, anger, or shut down and to playful tones by opening up and relaxing. We simply cannot help but respond to the indicators of safety or danger. “

“…women who had an early history of abuse and neglect were seven times more likely to be raped in adulthood. women who as children, had witnessed their mothers being assaulted by their partners had a vastly increased chance to fall victim to domestic violence.”

VOICE TO TEXT GOT IT SO WRONG THE FIRST TIME ITS MY ENEMY NOW

Women who had an early history of abuse and neglect were seven times more likely to be raped in adulthood women who has children had witnessed their mothers being assaulted by their partners that are Vaseline please transfer for victim to domestic violence.

For every act of cruelty in this world there are hundreds of small acts of kindness and connection.

To be benevolent, rather than malevolent is probably a true feature of our species

“Our culture teaches us to focus on personal uniqueness, but at a deeper level we barely exist as individual organisms”