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in chapter 9, I found it really interesting when how certain 'problems' are just hallmarks of deeper problems to be solved, and rather than solving the surface-layered problems, we have to deep deeper. Through that, it also elaborated on how it can act as a coping mechanism short-term wise

talks about the roles of mothers in attunement with the child. I think this might be a patriarchal view. It should put emphasis on both parents, moreso men in nurturing their children. In the case one is unable to fulfill the need of their child - the other has to play a role in this back-and-forth interaction. These preemptive formation of strong attunement is the foundation to building future relationships.

it's terrifying to not recognize yourself in the mirror, or to even not know how you're feeling

i forgot to log this book in when i started reading it lol, but so far its kind of... monotonous and uninteresting. the writing and imagery is lush though

recently read about how we have 3 common state when in danger; social engagement, fight-or-flight and lastly shutting down and each are controlled by different nerves. Also, the vagus nerves ( specifically the ventral vagus nerves ) puts a break on our fight-or-flight reaction! When we feel safe, it sends signals to the heart to slow down its beating, thus giving us a sense of calm and safety.

the PET scan of the brain is really interesting. It's interesting to know the 'hows' of it; like how people aren't able to think straight or talk about their experiences in a sequential manner when experiencing a flashback or breakdown because the left-side of the brain ( which includes the Broca's area ) essentially 'shuts down.'

'Scared animals return home, regardless of whether home is safe or frightening.'

'scared animals return home, regardless of whether home is safe or frightening.'

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something really interesting i picked up from the first few chapters were about how trauma affects the way we act - especially in how we deal with relationship in our lives, in how survivors of abuse may have a hard time distinguishing love and terror because they've been conditioned to believe the harm acted upon them to be of love, of benefit
In the end, causes them to live in shame

I don't know why, midway through and its starting to bore me :/ premise was interesting at first, I enjoy her writing style in this, really captures the character's personality, but eventually it started to become a bit more bland :(

It's such an insightful piece on such an unknowable phenomenon; love. I adore how the book progresses, starting first from the re-definition of love after the media has marred our views on it, to redefine it towards something realistic, in contrast to the common perception of love as this flawless, one-dimensional story.

I'm devouring this book like it's a buffet and i'm starving.

My heart breaks for Kia and Trevor. 💔