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"I want us to have history."

"There has to be more to life than imagining a future for yourself. I can't just wish for the future; I have to take risks to create it."

"Während du dich mit mir auf diese Reise begibst, möchte ich dich dazu auffordern, dir die folgenden Worte ins Bewusstsein zu rufen: "langsam", "ruhig", "sanft". Du hast bereits jetzt Liebe und das Gefühl der Zugehörigkeit verdient." P 22

"Meine professionelle Erfahrung als Therapeu- tin hat mir immer wieder gezeigt, dass es kein persönliches Versagen ist, sich überfordert zu fühlen. Aber wie den meis- ten von euch wahrscheinlich bewusst ist, liegt häufig eine unüberwindbare Kluft zwischen dem, was wir vom Kopf her wissen, und dem, was wir mit dem Herzen fühlen." P 13

" ..Your children may forget their own earliest happy memories. So even though it is their happy memory, maybe you can hold on to it for a while and give it back to them when they are old enough to carry it forward." P 197

"evidence suggests that our memories are linked to our language ability, that is, our memories start staying with us at the time we begin to be able to tell stories about our life - and, therefore, we can shape our memories by choosing which stories to tell and by choosing which activities are likely to yield fond childhood memories for our children.
(Cont.) " p 197

"Help your kids and loved ones hold on to happy memories by retelling happy anecdotes.

It's not just about repetition.If the fact is already in the front of your mind, there is no work being done to enable you to recall it. If the information is retrieved at intervals,then the brain has to reconstruct that memory,and this strengthens it,like a muscle. (Review&repeat after increasing intervals >> Spaced repetition)"

"If we don't do anything stupid, if things don't go wrong, we don't have any stories to tell." P 178

Make the journey part of the experience. In an era of impatience and instant gratification,one way to make things more memorable is to delay your arrival.If you have spent5hours hiking to the peak,it makes the experience greater than if you took the 15min cable car up.It may also make sense to take a train instead of a plane.U will get there slower,but may have a more enjoyable journey. Trains - the tantra of travel.

"The peak end rule is that our memory of past experience (whether pleasant or unpleasant) does not correspond to an average level of positive or negative feelings but to the most extreme point and the end of the episode" p158

"Duration plays a small role in retrospective evaluations of experiences; such evaluations are often dominated by the discomfort at the worst and at the final moments of episode (peak-end effect)."

"..our 'experiencing' selves and our 'remembering selves' perceive happiness differently.

Experiencing self, who lives in the present, or for about 3 seconds at a time. And the remembering self , who is relatively permanent and does their best to keep a track record of all their experiences. In other words, our remembering self is the one that tells the story of our life." P 156

"Sharing embarrassing stories came make them lose their power."

"I've found that my embarrassing moments lose some of their power if I take control of them and laugh at them."