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I had to skip and skim most of the latter chapters, in which the villains are avoidants and asexuals the most villainous and undesirable of all. If I didn’t feel like mould already this would do it.

A lot I can relate to - the attempts to resolve differences especially. And I wonder how many of my fights over social things with the ex had their origin here. Still, I’m a bit sick of avoidants and men always being the villains.

The section on improving anxious/avoidant dynamics will need rereading. It will take two to tango though.

I had to skip most of the chapter on people with secure attachment styles. Bunch of smug self-regarding bastards.

I read the section on avoidant attachment, in which avoidants are blamed for everything. I had the uncomfortable feeling of being back in marriage counseling where my wife and her psychologist teamed up to tell me it was all my fault. I don’t know what the authors are trying to achieve but my dominant emotion this moment is volcanoes c bitterness.

Anxious avoidant - distinct echoes of Alison T.

Good insights. The personal vignettes are very relatable.

The discussion of anxious attachment screams out “Alison” to me.

Into the final section of the book. It feels a lot like the final part of the Gormenghast trilogy in being so different from what went before. It's very good though. In a way it tells us as much about Millers era as about the world he imagined.