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"But we get so bogged down in staring straight into the abyss that we've lost our sight of heaven...The way to respond to this stuff is to imagine what we want as opposed to constantly reacting to what we do not want." - Dominique Christina page 179 - What If All of This Came to Pass

"We need to master the art of asking questions which address the gravity of our situation yet which also create longing, which evoke a deep and rich sense of the wonders we can still create, rather than shutting it down or putting it into a deep sleep of complacency." page 126 - What If We Started Asking Better Questions

"We need more people asking "what if?" and then "why not?"

"We must populate our imaginations with images and stories of our shared humanity, of our interconnectedness, of our solidarity as people -- a poetics of welcome, not walls." Imaging the Future page 102

"But relying on laws to change society, or assuming facts alone will convince people of their wrongness seems to me a foolhardy proposition. The stories we tell and the images we share -- children playing across borders, blueprints for binational cities -- matter." Imaging the Future page 102

"And I had proved for myself that remembering is not enough, if it simply hardens hate." p247 quoting Lomax's book

"As long as an apology meets important psychological needs of the offended, or, by being public, it reestablishes harmony and reaffirms important social values, we should not diminish its effectiveness by becoming critics."

"Hypocrisy does not necessarily imply inaccuracy."

"Worse than that, what he received was a complete lack of understanding. What this story demonstrates is that an apology that fails is potentially more destructive than no apology at all. With no apology, one can hope for a future apology, but with a failed apology, one often concludes the matter is hopeless." page 73 - How Apologies Heal: Some Apologies Meet Multiple Needs

The new year always brings Big Feels, especially when the one ending was particularly rough.

Too frequently when someone apologizes to me I'm tempted to quip, "The only apology I'll believe is behavior, so if you're sincere, stop talking and change yours."

Recently I heard Dan Harmon, one of my favorite storytellers, talk about this book and its helpfulness in both understanding apologies & making better ones.

Layout is iffy in several sections. Also should have hired more proofreaders. Not bad so far, just lacking in some basic QA areas.