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“Your self-destructive patterns are the least interesting thing about you; why are you allowing them to lead your identity? Is the damaged version of who you are really your whole story? Are you not bored with this narrative yet?”
😯😧😶🤢🫥🧍‍♀️

“Prentis Hemphill, described a boundary as “the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.””

“Some moments are devastating, retching, abominable, horrible. Period. We don’t need to transmute every uncomfortable emotion into something shiny and useful.”

“What doesn’t kill you might traumatize you to the point of disintegrating your memory recall.”
I’m sick

“Healing is a series of tiny evolutions, born from ostensibly negligible choices, carried out day after day; it’s most often expressed in moments that have no witness other than yourself.”

“You as a person are a whole world of cities unto yourself. You’re so dynamic that you couldn’t possibly begin to measure yourself against someone else, and you do yourself a disservice every time you do. You won’t be for everyone; that doesn’t mean you need to change.”

I want the most insane romance book after I finish this. This book is gonna take me out

“You can’t control grief by subtracting joy from your life.”
The manic laughter that followed this statement was insane.

“You can change without healing, but you can’t heal with changing.”

“Personal accountability requires you to own up to your missteps, yes, but personal accountability is less about taking the blame for a mistake and more abut taking responsibility for the solution. Punishment doesn’t require an ounce of reflection, acknowledgement, responsibility, condolence, or a pledge and plan to improve. Punishment is lazy.” 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

“Connection will hold you over when nothing else can.”

“Perfectionist intellectually understand that they cannot change the past, but that doesn’t stop them from trying to change the fact that the past had an impact on them. …You accept the event and reject the impact. You say some version of “Yes, that happened but I’m fine.””
If yall had a penny for every time I’ve said that, you would be eligible for retirement at 25.

“Power lies in understanding that whatever you feel, you have agency over every moment in your life. The exception to the rule is trauma.”
🚬Oh no, here we go.

“We love to think in binary ways. Were depressed (damn it!), or we’re not depressed (phew!). Mental health doesn’t work like that.”
Plot twist: we all are a little sick in the head (knew it)

“You don’t earn your way to joy.”
Right right right

“There’s nothing fixed in the matters of the mind and heart.”
-Dr. Harriet Lerner

“You can be angry and full of love. You can be grateful and want more. …You are allowed to want more and get it. Wanting more is healthy. Your desires are real and important, and they don’t have to make sense to anyone other than you.”
🎤

“As Tolle puts it, “You are a presence in the world, and that is all you ever need to be.” On the day you were born, you were worthy of all the love, joy, freedom, connection, and dignity in the world simply because you were in it.” 🫵🏻I’m talking to you besties

“We use the word perfect to emphasize completeness, not lack of flaw.”

“… There is no purity to bearing pain alone.”

“”In certain seasons,
We may be nourished by
The idea of the carrot
More than the carrot itself.””

“It was easy to dislike the man; it was harder to dislike the little boy who existed just below the surface of the man.” This is why I cry when I see baby pictures of the people I love, I picture little them when I see them hurting (being a pisces is a disease I swear)

“Never ever ever sleep with Marx. Whatever you do, don’t do it. At some point, he’ll look at you with those eyes and that hair, and you’ll think he is harmless. He’s hot. I should sleep with him.” Happens to the best of us, I fear

“How do I go on when the person I love the most in the world is in love with someone else? Someone tell me the solution, he thought, so I don’t have to play this losing game all the way through.”

“And Marx dated everyone, … If he’d been a girl, everyone would have called him a slut, but he was just a stud.” Naturally

“Tell me I don’t know you. Tell me I don’t know you when I could draw both sides of this hand, your hand, from memory.” To be known so intimately, yet still feel suffocatingly undiscovered; what a perfect paradox.

“Every person you knew, every person you loved even, did not have to consume you for the time to have been worthwhile.”

“Throughout his life, Sam had hated being told to “fight”, as if sickness were a character failing. Illness could not be defeated, no matter how hard you fought, and pain, once it had you in its grasp, was transformational.”

“This dissociation was something Sam had experienced many times—the feeling that your body, when it was sick, was no longer your own.”

“I want to know your ideas, …I really want to know them. I love hearing your ideas. That’s my favorite thing in the world.”