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Getting in the right state of mind, helps you to enjoy the conversation that you’re having. Techniques like moving and breathing helps to regulate your state of mind. It will also be good to collect positive states regularly. Staying present and aware, keeps the conversation flowing naturally. When internal thoughts sabotage you, external focus calms you. Always stay curious and trust yourself and your listener.

Connection matters the most, as it creates necessary trust for a satisfying conversation. There are usually two types of people, radiators and drains. Drains such as enthu robo echo ego gossip and moaners. Important to find a common ground in order to have a two way conversation. Common language allows both parties to understand better, so as non verbal connections (body language, voice tone and energy).

I learned that conversation can be seen as a two-way dance. When we take turns to lead the conversation, sometimes it can be tough, sometimes it can be elegant. Here are 9 pointers for a good conversation. 1) take turns to speak; 2) speak precisely and easily: 3) Do not interrupt; 4) be courteous; 5) react accordingly to topics; 6) Be upfront; 7) Stick to subject; 8) DO NOT talk about yourself; 9) Never lose temper

Every ending is a beautiful beginning. Stop chasing for validation and start choosing to honor yourself. Send a clear message to the world about how you deserve to be treated.

Learn how to love someone for who they are. Let them reveal themselves, and accept them. Don’t shy from hard conversations, make hard decisions when someone can’t be who you want them to be.

How to provide support the right way. Rescuing people from their problems makes them drown in them. When enabling others with money, actions, and words, they don’t foster their independence. Instead, it will prolong their suffering. People only heal/change when they are ready to do the work. Let adults face and feel the nature consequences of their actions. This helps them take responsibility for their growth.

Stop avoiding the problem. Struggle is a necessary process for an individual to choose to grow. Have faith in that individual to face the issues and overcome them. Stop taking the easy way out by shunning away from the problem. People changes when they wish to.

To support them, stay by their side and walk with them on the path that allows them to grow

Let people be who they are, and Let me be the influence I wish I have. By walking the talk, I’ll inevitably influence the people around me, and start motivating them to work for the better. In all likelihood, if it’s not successful, we can use the ABC loop, by throwing open ended questions, let them feel the tension, make them develop the desire to change within themselves. Let adults be adults.

People only change when they feel like it. “Motivation” is wanting to do something from within. Humans are hardwired to do what feels good. Everyone thinks that they are exceptional. As the pressure to change increases, it creates more resistance, which often results in standoff. “Loving people means you meet them where they are.” Let them be who they are, and let yourself be the influence they needed.

Adult friendship isn’t something that happens, but it’s something you create. Be the first to introduce yourself. Compliment people. Be curious about other people. Smile and greet everyone. Do it without expectation.

Look for events/group classes that interest you. Hang with people that you click well. Hang out in groups. One awkward conversation at a time, and you’ll find your people.

Adult friendship is hard. Easier when we’re young, as everyone is going through the same situation, same experience, and completing the same milestones. But as we grow older, we began to scatter apart, into different industries, different groups of people and different stages of life. Friendship is build on 3 pillars: Proximity, Timing and Energy. Any of these pillars is missing, the friendships would fall apart.

“You have a beautiful and amazing life, with potential beyond your imagination. Don’t be limited by the environment, beliefs or circumstances.” Always be honest with yourself about your desires, take responsibility in creating them. You don’t have to be special, just show up each day and do a little better than yesterday. You’ll end up becoming the person you’re once jealous about.

Life isn’t fair. Never compare your cards with those that are in other people’s hands. You’re not supposed to play against the others, but to play with them. World class players know that it’s never about the cards, but HOW you play with the cards you’re given. There are 2 types of comparison, Torturous or Teacher. Most disorders are result of torturous comparisons.

When I say Let Them, I give others the space to experience their emotions without making it my responsibility to manage or fix them. When I say Let Me, I find the courage to make the right decision for me, even if it will feel wrong to others.

It’s time to grow up and act like a mature adult

All adults are 8 years old with huge bodies. It’s the responsibility of an adult to manage emotions and let kids feel their emotions and learn how to manage them better over time. It’s okay to avoid while at the moment, but always reflect and improve for the better. We are all not perfect, but we can be better at emotions

Let them. People will always have negative thoughts about your actions no matter what. Just lead a carefree life and be yourself, shine regardless of other’s opinions. Only use Let Me on those that matters, to build a stronger relationship.

Very relatable and soothing. I learned that I should never bend over backwards for others but for myself. This is to make myself happy, and shows that I did my part and my role

Very enriching. I learned that Let Them helps me reclaim the power I’ve given to others, and Let Me to reset my mental state and decide how I would like to respond

Inspiring. I’ve learned that “Let Them” is not all and not a sign of weakness. Instead it’s showing strength, by reclaiming the power that once gave it to people I cared for. Then “Let Me” is the follow up action, to improve my current situation, and make things better

Interesting, inspiring and easy to read