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The first chapter “My Grandmother’s House” really hit home ❤️❣️
As did the rest of the book, loss of a childhood best friend, continual journey of self love— looking in the wrong places for fulfillment, spiritual growth, forgiveness, evolving from feeling unworthy to worthy!
Being misunderstood & desiring to be accepted when didn’t accept oneself 1st

Love her take on the Heroine’s Journey.
It’s a spiral out of chaos into order, saving the damsel within ourselves. Each woman can learn how to be her own savior & anyone who loves her can learn how to support her in the journey.
It’s the Women’s quest to find the power of unstoppable, indestructible, love for herself. Key to true empowerment is acceptance of the journey that got her there.

reduce complexity. Ask yourself basic questions. 

“What do I want to do with my life?” isn’t a basic question. “What can I do that’s meaningful?”

– & it’s EASY to feel overwhelmed. Constantly deciding is EXHAUSTING. Where, then, are you supposed to find the mental energy & resources to make the most consequential decision of all – choosing to lead an earned life?

decided what temperature you wanted your shower to be. Or you chose to put milk in your coffee rather than taking it black like usual. Or to walk instead of taking the bus. These low-stakes decisions, take up time and energy; you have to think about them. Add in the more consequential decisions that occupy your brain – decisions about getting married, or buying a house, or saving for your pension

“Scientists guess that we make about 35,000 decisions a day. That’s a ballpark figure, but it gets at an important truth: choices account for a huge part of the mental energy we expend each day. "
Many decisions are trivial. This morning, for example, you probably made more than dozens of choices that were pretty inconsequential in the grand scheme of things—

Focus your mind on the efforts you’re making today that’ll bring you and the people you love the greatest return in the future. 

Often, you’ll discover forgotten cause-and-effect links between the past and present. As the cliché has it, we all stand on the shoulders of giants. You might just realize that you, too, were a giant. Take a deep breath, and start writing. Thank yourself for all the gifts the past you gave to the present you. Now take another deep breath. It’s time to talk about a new you – the future you. 

A reminder I see all too clearly too often —There’s always another goal/next big thing that’ll really make you happy. Endlessly pursuing such shifting goals/things makes us soulLESS.
We’re ravenous, but nothing fills nor fulfills us. That’s a paradoxical, futile,& miserable way to live. 

By continuing to live with repeated abuse, the woman’s sense of fear had become so dulled that she didn’t recognize the situation as dangerous. In order to feel genuine fear, she needed to be looking down the barrel of that gun.

Understanding signals is critical to identifying what is dangerous and what is not. As the saying goes, things are not always as they seem.

“Man is coward plain & simple. He loves life too much. He fears others too much”—J.H. Abbott

ABVOID becoming a victim by recognizing a false threat, from
Someone that is clear Hurting attempting to hut others or get attention, Do NOT take it personal, and refuse to empower the perpetrator.

overexcited calls in a bomb threat, don’t panic. After all, if doing actual harm was the main goal, a call probably wouldn’t be made in the first place.

there are signs we can read in order to distinguish real threats from fake ones.

It also helps to be empathetic, since being in tune with people’s emotions allows you to assess the risk of being attacked.

consciously keeping an eye out for signs of aggression, you can prevent yourself from being caught off guard.

“Just as a wise man keeps away from
Mad dogs, so one should not make friend with evil men”— Buddha