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“Tears would have made him feel weak. Men have always been fragile that way.”

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Dr. Janet Helms’s White Racial Identity Development model identifies six stages within White identity development:
1. Contact
2. Disintegration
3. Reintegration
4. Pseudo-Independence
5. Immersion/ Emersion
6. Autonomy

“… White abolition does *not* promote hating White people. It simply questions the value of the concept of White identity in the first place as it seeks to dismantle whiteness and white supremacy.”

“Antiracism includes two differing approaches to White identity: one that believes developing a White identity is a bad idea, and one believes developing a positive, antiracist White identity is a good idea.”

Four distinct approaches, or orientations, that speak to the value of White identity:
- Orientation #1: Colorblindness (or Race-Blindness)
- Orientation #2: White Supremacy
- Orientation #3 & #4: Antiracist Options
- #3: White Abolition
- #4: Positive White Identity Development

“When people talk about dismantling whiteness … it is a statement against the dominance of one group or way of being over all others.”

“[W]hite supremacy culture tends to value hierarchical decision-making, conflict avoidance, and individual work over collaboration.”

“[W]hiteness generally treats people as disposable and leads to significant, widespread harm that damages everyone.”

“White people as a legal category did not exist until the late 1600s when the rich and powerful created it. The purpose was to stop dissatisfied laborers (free, indentured, and enslaved) from working together to overthrow an exploitative form of capitalism flourishing in the colonies. The gambit worked. … Thus, whiteness is another word for white supremely.”

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Not sure what to think.

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“America would not be America without the wealth from Black labor, without Black striving, Black ingenuity, Black resistance. So much of the music, the food, the language, the art, the scientific advances, the athletic renown,?the fashion, the guarantees of civil rights, the oratory and intellectual inspiration that we export to the world, that draws the world to us, comes forth from Black Americans …”

“Women already do the vast majority of the work of pregnancy prevention. The burden of birth control, the effects of birth control, and the consequences of failed birth control are essentially entirely on women.”

“Holding men accountable for their actions does not make women victims. Asking men to take some responsibility is not the same as allowing women to take no responsibility.”

“If you actually want to reduce abortions … If you focus on dramatically reducing the number of irresponsible ejaculations, you will dramatically reduce the number of unwanted pregnancies, and you will dramatically reduce the number of abortions.”

“A woman having an orgasm while a man penetrates her risks nothing and hurts no one. A man having an orgasm while he penetrates her a woman risks everything—he risks her body, her health, her income, her relationships, her social status, even her life, and he also risks creating another human being.”

“Any man who has had a vasectomy and/or who uses condoms regularly and correctly and/or declines to have unprotected sex with a woman is taking responsibility for what he does with his penis and where he ejaculates. Any man who isn’t doing these things isn’t taking responsibility.”

“Men assume women will do all the work of pregnancy prevention, that a woman will take responsibility for her own body and for the man’s body, and women assume women will do it, too.”

“… our current culture doesn’t expect men to be responsible…”

“Why would a woman ever need to ask a man to wear a condom? Why wouldn’t it be the default that men should provide their own condom and put it on without a request? Who benefits if the man doesn’t wear a condom?”