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Harry Potter magic with dragons as familiars + Game Of Thrones baddies + Sarah J Maas star-crossed lovers.

Would prefer less coitus but I guess this would be a boon for some readers.

Questions to raise about a prospective partner
Can this person apologise for their problematic sides?
Do they have a keen sense of their flaws?
Can they accept criticism?
Are they keen to improve themselves in a psychological sense?
Can they say sorry?
Can they tolerate flaws?
Are they curious about the details of your inner life?
Are they comfortable revealing to you when they are upset?

MAKE IT A HABIT! FOUR TIPS TO IMPROVE GUT HEALTH
1. Do not eat out more than once a week.
2. Try to avoid processed foods and limit them to no more than 25 percent of your meals.
3. Consume organic, non-GMO foods as often as possible.
4. Eat with someone-dinners with family and friends help build the pillar of community.

“We certainly don't need anyone to be perfect, but we should learn to run away very early from those who cannot listen to feedback, who cannot be tender, who have no sure grasp of their or our psychological histories and who have no interest in the work of rupture and repair. To insist on these points isn't to be fussy; it's to be rightfully aware of the terrifying consequences of emotional misalignment.”

"Look at you," she continued, as she approached him. "You are sweating like a pig."
Ben had seen a few pigs in his life and none of them had been sweating. In fact, pig fans everywhere will tell you that pigs don't even have sweat glands, so they can't sweat.
Wow, this book is actually really educational.

"Aaaahhhhkk... pifuu... aaaaaahhhhhhkkkkkk
ppppppppffffffffuutt.."
No, reader, you haven't bought the gibberish edition of this book by mistake.
That was the sound Ben was waiting for.
Granny snoring.
She was asleep.
😴

You are the best investment you can make 🌟

nutrition: eat healthy and mindfully, not too much of anything, especially sugar, refined flours and fat
movement: make it part of our lives, a 20min daily walk is often sufficient
purpose: not living a purposeful life affects the brain
community: wider networks when young and old - when middle-aged, a few deep but meaningful bonds are key
spirituality: can be a temple, mosque, church or nature

“… children with histories of abuse and neglect learn that their terror, pleading, and crying do not register with their caregiver. Nothing they can do or say stops the beating or brings attention and help. In effect they're being conditioned to give up when they face challenges later in life.”

“… we get our first lessons in self-care from the way that we are cared for. Mastering the skill of self-regulation depends to a large degree on how harmonious our early interactions with our caregivers are. Children whose parents are reliable sources of comfort and strength have a lifetime advantage-a kind of buffer against the worst that fate can hand them.”

Our cards are dealt right at the start.