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Kids don’t feel good when they’re out of control. Kids are developmentally incapable of stopping themselves. Deregulated children need adults to provide containment. “I won’t let you” is an act of love and protection.

Holding boundaries for self care teaches your kids that taking care of ourselves is an important part of taking care of them

When your child asks a question about what feels like a sensitive or “not age appropriate” thing… buckle up - a foundation has already been started so you better make sure it’s a good one right now! If they’ve asked about it they need you as their best resource to give them ask the best info

Ooooo helping your kids put words to things they recognize helps them be better at standing up and voicing “No, I don’t like that” peer pressure type situations later in life!

Like if they heard you yell at your spouse, even if they didn’t turn their head or seem to take any notice of it. You say oh you heard me yell at dad. We were having a discussion but we’re calm now and shouldn’t have yelled.

Our ability to talk about important, vulnerable, hard truths is dependent on our ability to tolerate the emotions that come up for us during these moments. Which is only one more reason why working on ourselves as parents is more critical than any other parenting intervention. The more we learn about our own distress and coping skills for hard feeling the more present we can be for our children. To better connect

Building resilience is better than just trying to make them happy all the time. Learning how to cope and giving them tools to work through distress instead of avoid and run away from it.

Kids do indeed remember years 0-4 even tho they may not be able to produce stories with words. Their bodies remember!!!!!!!

“Your child is good inside. Bad behavior comes from deregulated feelings that we can not manage” on our own…giving my kids as many options as possible helps so much! Don’t want to brush your teeth. Sorry it’s not an option. But we can choose when we brush our teeth. Before our bath or after.

Been getting a lot of “that makes me sad/mad” which is great and I love. But sadly I’ve also been getting “I don’t like you anymore” ouch! Been thinking a lot about ODD. Because the screaming, the mean, the fights are concerning. But I think maybe being the middle child and having a tiny sibling who needs a lot of attention and a big sibling who gets a lot of after school attention has really compounded.

Ok…why am I crying already?

“The stars still dare to shine for you!”
Ok. I want to finish this right now but I just know I’m gonna cry. So I’m gonna wait for bed time or first thing tomorrow after school drop off.

“never under estimate the importance of small things” acts of kindness change lives!

I can’t stop listening. I sat down and paused the book and I’m about to get up and clean some more so I can keep listening lol

Ok, fun quick read but I’m hooked! I started this less than 24 hours ago!!!! I wonder about my dads library 🥹

Oh good for Grace!!

Finally finishing up this book and oh boy. MAGDA!!! She surprised me!

I wish the narrator did better at distinguishing the characters

lol this is cute

Oh my gosh. I shouldn’t have listened to the end in Walmart grocery shopping!!!!

Okayyyy the dogs perspective was such a cute touch!

I wanted more DRAMA!!! Is this just a love story?

Ok crazy I’m just barely past where I watched to in the first two episodes

The stars are just getting to the house. Now I’m ready to finally get into the juicy stuff hehehe

Oh Gigi!! 😳 how dare you

Definitely glad I stopped watching the show to listen to this!!!!

Donna…the proof of a crazy mom of a son! Ewww 🙄

10 months?! Holy crap

“This was just a ride!” Ouch this put a pain in my heart

Oh geez… 🤢 why would he do that?!

Finally!! The cutest details of the night they met