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Feeling good, feeling good, all the money in the world spent on feeling good. -levon helm
Facebook is about the relationship between pleasure and pain, and how understanding that relationship has become essential for a life well lived.
Why?
Because we've transformed the world from a place of scarcity to place of overwhelming abundance: drugs, food, news, gambling, shopping, gaming, texting, s******, facebooking

if you're going to write a book, start with your own ideas! The worst kind of success is achieving other people's goals. Don't live someone else's dream

work samples are 1 on 1 at the end of the interview, instead of being judged, you get to be the judge. You're asked to rate your interview experience-how they made you feel & whether you preformed your best
an algorithm is an input to human judgement-not a substitute for it
it's easier to fix a biased algorithm than a biased human
but they rely on data from the past to predict the future potential, they over info

the fear of confirming negative stereotypes has been shown to disrupt focus & drain working memory, obscuring the abilities of women in math test, immigrants on verbal test, older adults on cognitive test & students with physical &learning disabilities
interviewers most likely to pose rain teasers were narcissists & sadists you is a jerk deriving pleasure from others pain

social class achievement gap:1st generation college students tend to under-preform academically due to a series of invisible disadvantages. The expectation to pave their own paths discourages them from seeking help. The pressure to pay their own way, the presence of self-doubt, & the absence of belonging all interfere with their ability to focus

The Peter principle is a concept in management developed by Laurence J. Peter which observes that people in a hierarchy tend to rise to "a level of respective incompetence": employees are promoted based on their success in previous jobs until they reach a level at which they are no longer competent, as skills in one job do not necessarily translate to another.

climate for voice & psychological safety. There's evidence that just being looked at by the leader is enough to encourage people who lack status to speak up.
most workplaces, opportunity exists on a ladder-it gives 1 individual far too much power to shut creativity down & shut people up. A single no is enough to kill an idea-or even stall a career.
it's easy for managers to find reasons to say no

Not wanting to be unprepared & outdone, men picked up the norm & started doing their homework too

smarter teams have a higher proportion of women the key is on average women outperform men in test of reading other people's thoughts & feelings they tend to instill these skills in their teams. Both economist & psychologist find that good team players motivate the rest of the group to contribute more women more likely to read the material before the meeting.

brainstorming groups fall so far short of their potential that we get more ideas-& better ideas-if we work alone
if you had to identify, in 1 word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, & never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be: meeting.
none of us are as dumb as of us us
participation becomes lopsided in favor of the biggest egos, the loudest voices & most powerful people

highly narcissist people were more likely to rise into leadership roles, but they were less effective in those roles
they made self-serving decisions & instilled a zero-sum view of success, provoking cutthroat behavior & undermining cohesion & collaboration
when they grow up narcissists wreak havoc on their teams

when we choose leaders, we don't usually pick the person with the strongest leadership skills (babble effect) we frequently choose the person who talks the most
we mistake confidence for competence, certainly for credibility, & quantity for quality. We get stuck on those who dominate the discussion instead of those who elevate it
the worst babblers are the ball hogs, poorest prosocial skills & biggest egos

with prosocial skills, team members are able to bring out the best in 1 another. Collective intelligence rises as team members recognize 1 another's strengths, develop strategies for leveraging them, & motive 1 another to align their efforts in pursuit of a shared purpose
the glue that transforms groups into teams
the camaraderie don't necessarily improve team performance
what makes the diff a important mission

bad-apple study in the NBA they coded players narcissism psychologists at their twitter profiles
if teams has many or even 1 extreme narcissist, they completed fewer & won fewer games. They also failed to improve over the season-especially if their point guard scored high on narcissism. Narcissists are ball hogs, & the most undervalued players are the ones who help their teammates score

teamwork failed to make dram work. It was more likely to be a nightmare . . . as anyone who ever did a group project in school can attest
the best teams have the most team players- people who excel at collaborating with other
although it is nice to have a savant or 2 on the team, they do little good if no one else sees their value & people pursue their own agendas
a single bad apple can spoil the barrel

more than half of Chinese students student reported feeling sometimes or always miserable , & over 3/4 felt sometimes or always sad
students at high-achieving high schools are depressed & anxious at 3 to 7 times above national norms
Finland helps students without monopolizing their time, wreaking havoc on their lives, or making them hate school

in the US play is practiced in Montessori schools play fosters a love of learning that's a value best developed early on-1 that builds cognitive & character skills
Scandinavian code is "Don't think you're anything special"
2009 Finland started slipping in math, reading , & science by 2018 they were surpassed by Asia and 2nd in England
they were 5th in the world overall

compared to the US, in Finland teachers & students have an hour more break time. Keeping their energy high maintains their harmonious passion for teaching
Finland Kindergartners only sat at their desk for spelling, writing & math one day a week. Each lesson was a maximum of 45 minutes, followed by 15 minutes of recess, short breaks improve children's attention & some aspects of their learning

In schools, "looping" refers to the practice of a teacher remaining with the same group of students for more than one grade level, fostering stronger relationships & potentially leading to better student outcomes.
supportive learning networks
more likely to improve in math & reading
Finland loves to loop not just 2 years in a row but up to 6

top 1% of family income were 10 times more likely to become inventors than people from families below median income
if you grew up wealthy, your odds of earning a patent were 8 out of 1,000. If you grew up poor, they plummeted to 8 out of 10,000

the doubts that threaten to crush your confidence can become crucibles that fortify it. You feel like an underdog who can beat the odds the underdog effect I'll show you
low expectations from ignorant naysayers can be motivation regardless of whether you feel capable in the task.But persistent experience with low expectations can be debilitating
limitations set by others give you boundaries to bust through

high expectations offer support for us to climb, low expectations tend to hold us back-it feels like our boots are made of lead. It's called the Golem effect: when others underestimate us, it limits our effort & growth. These kind of self-fulfilling prophecies are particularity pronounced among stigmatized groups, who frequently inundated by low expectations.

tutor effect the best way to learn something is to teach it
bootstrapping is an individual skill. You don't rely on assistance from others. You pull at the loop at the back of your own boots to lift yourself over obstacles
it is an approach that we gain the competence & the confidence to overcome obstacles
oldest child tends to slightly outperform younger sibs
only children test less bright as 1st born

cursor derives from the Latin currere "to run" "running messenger" or "errand boy"
is it a cursor in homage to all the writers who cursed it?
they tried to call it a big
trial & error sometimes we need to discover things no guide can provide & write our own directions

instead of helping you on your way experts can leave you stuck
lawyers who got promoted to partner all it took was 2 to 3 mentors
it didn't take a village

skilled golfers & wine aficionados have a hard time describing their putting & tasting techniques-even asking them describing their approaches is enough to interfere with their performance, so they often stay on autopilot
experts often have an intuitive understanding of a route, but they struggle to articulate all the steps to take. Their brain dump ids partially filled with garbage.

Einsteins curse he know too much & his students knew too little
the best experts were especially bad at teaching students who were less academically prepared
as you get better at what you do, your ability to communicate your understanding or to help others learn that skill often gets worse
a great deal if expert knowledge is tacit-it's implicit, not explicit
further toward mastery, the less conscious awareness

NFL hockey players who got injured. The more the teams experimented with their lineups to bring different players together on the ice, the better they performed.
an extreme invent like an injury push us to stop, reverse, & switch routes we are afraid to go backward we worry when we step back we will lose our footing

we're regressing in order to process "performance suffers as new methods are being invented, tested, rejected, or accepted" We ascend after "the implementation of a successful new method . . . to surpass prior levels of achievement"
you hunt and peck you may type 30 40 words a minute
type by touch instead of sight 60 to 70 a new method
star player gets hurt team suffers when the star returns they do better

when our performance stagnants, before it improves again, it declines. When people's skills stalled in tasks ranging from Tetris to golf to memorizing facts, they didn't usually ascend again until after they had deteriorated
backing up means scrapping our current plan & starting over. That's what causes temporary decline in performance: we've chosen to give up the gains we've made.