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We try so hard to save our children from pain and suffering, but when we do, we rob them of their ability to grow and learn from adversity.

In Auschwitz, spoiled pampered children were the first to die. They kept waiting for others to come save them, and when no one came, they gave up. They had not learned how to save themselves.

If you want to be poor, find some rich friends. If you want to be rich, find some poor friends. Keeping up with the joneses happens within a peer group.

Tibetan teaching - what causes suffering is a general pattern of how we relate to others: envy toward the above, competitiveness toward the equal, contempt toward the lower.”

“to choose hope is to step firmly forward into the howling wind, baring one’s chest to the elements, knowing that, in time, the storm will pass.”

This is the last time I’ll stir milk into my tea without knowing what happened, he thought, wistful in advance for the present moment.

The more you remember, the more you’ve lost

Where do we draw the line? Somewhere. You and I may draw it in different places, but we need to draw it, each of us, for ourselves.

The most important part of becoming better people, is that we care about whether what we do is good or bad, and therefore try to do the right thing.

Shanties a wrote: “if something can be done about the situation, what need is there for dejection? And if nothing can be done about it, what use is there for being dejected?”

“It is far easier to articulate the pain of love’s absence than to describe its presence and meaningful in our lives.”

“Writing my intention so many times and being aware of what I really wanted cleared the path for me to jump when the opportunity presented itself.”

“What I want to be true of myself in the future is my responsibility to make true now.”

“Is America ready to share its abundance with people of color?”

The people responsible for the abundance!

“Other than a dethroned king, who would sorrow over not having a throne?”

You apologize to apologize not to earn forgiveness. All you can do is apologize and it’s the person’s choice whether or not to forgive you.

“Even if no one else knew what you’d done, you yourself knew, and what’s more, even if you could somehow forget completely, once you’d done a thing, there was no changing that fact.”

“I. Teaching, you cannot walk into the room unhappy or unwilling. You must sacrifice your own energy for your students’, throw your personal reluctance into the pure of their lack of interest.”

“We talk about the complexity of the hive, but human societies are infinitely more complex, full of choices and mistakes, periods of glory and seasons of utter despair. Some of us make highly visible, elaborate contributions to the whole. Some of us are part of the ticking mechanics of the world, the incremental wealth of small gestures. All of it matters. All of it weaves the wider fabric that binds us.”

This isn’t about you getting fixed, this is about you living the best I’ve you can with the parameters that you have.

“He still marks the solstice in a quieter way, but also sees it as a part of a system of celebrations that arrive at regular intervals to make life feel more manageable.”

“I’m fine with giving love,but I can’t accept it. Because I don’t want anything that can ever be taken away.”

“If you want to do some things on your own, the expect you to do everything on your own. And that’s difficult. Because wanting to be independent doesn’t mean I want to be alone.”

HONY injects a dose of vulnerability onto a platform where everyone is trying to appear unbroken.”

“There are times when the cruelest thing a person can do is love you back.”

“As of there was a very thin path to a happy life and it was the path he had decided for her. As I’d her own agency in her own life was automatically wrong. But what she didn’t fully appreciate at fifteen years of age was just how bad regret could feel, and how much her father has felt that pain of being so near to the realization of a dream he could almost touch it.”

“You can choose choices, but not outcomes. It was a good choice, but not a desired outcome.”

An independent child is disconnected from others and not responsible to anyone but themselves. An Autonomous child governs their own actions and makes their own decisions, but the have a constant connection to their family and friends. They are expected to help, share, and be kind. They are expected to give back to the group whenever possible.

“Fewer words create less resistance. Fewer words cause less stress.”

“Choices are hard. They can cause stress and anxiety because we don’t want to miss out on the option we don’t choose.”

“When you yell at children, they stop listening.”

“Getting angry at a child has no purpose. It only stops communication between the child and the parent”

“Even the little children often act patiently, empathetically, and generously. And they’re excellent at sharing - toys, food, clothes, you name it. Objects seem to present as an opportunity to cooperate and play together instead of argue and compete.”