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That last sentence in the chapter broke my heart.

"I had stopped drawing "

Twist after twist. Hardy boy spectacular. And I appreciate the ending.

I started reading this with my 3rd graders months ago and it just now dawned on me what the comedy style of characters Molly and Timmy reminds me of - Amelia Badelia.
It even has the rhyme/alliterative style.

Getting interested though very wordy; perfect example of the writing of the time.

Someone needs to debate what Picasso's quote means. "Art is a lie which makes us realize the truth."

I am trying to understand but I don't get it. Add his cubism, blue, and rose periods. I'm stumped.

Love the obscure reference to Finding Nemo.

Smacks of the new song "Messy" by Lola Young.

The decision-making decision maker makes me think of real life DnD or that scene from SpongeBob where they need to ask the magic conch.

Best advice/reasoning comes on same page as best joke.
"In the same way that apologies teach our kids what to do when we make mistakes, practicing self-care teaches our kids that they can and should care for themselves. It also teaches them empathy. In order for you to take a minute, your kid first needs to know that you need a minute, and second have the empathy to grant you that moment of self-care."
"Take that..."

"yelling is emotionally driven, charged, or motivated. It is both a release and can be used as a weapon of intimidation.
Shouting is communication with elevated volume or, occasionally, elevated urgency."

How very Dr House of you.
"We've been dishonest with each other since we figured out how to vibrate our vocal cords in a controlled fashion."

Very interesting seeing the types of disobedience in print.
Intentional, Unintentional, Experimental, Impulsive, Malicious.

Great chapter title: Developmentally Appropriate Is Just Code For "This Too Shall Pass".

Very good synopsis. "Parents have a right to determine that "no" is incorrect and we still have to do the thing."

"Boundaries are the first taste of a kid being able to determine their own needs as well as the needs of others. Essentially, it is their first lesson in empathy."

Something all postpartum moms need to hear: "after you've realized what and hopefully why your kiddo is in a big feel, now you need to help them return to regular. This doesn't mean stop feeling the feel."

I like that she goes on to talk about cortisol, the stress hormone. I didn't know that it had an impact on the ability to remember information.

Gwenna explains the difference between self care and parental time-out. Time-out not planned but necessary for relationship with child.

Mom Guilt says I feel bad about something I did or said. Mom Shame says I am a bad mom. - Heidi McBain

Apologies are good for categorizing mistakes and making them normal for kids.

Gotta love the creative titles. "You will still lose your shit".

"Emotional awareness and it's eventual byproduct, emotional regulation, are skills that take practice."

Gwenna explains the difference between care task and functional task. And then this Golden Nugget comes out.
"A parent's job isn't always to teach their kids. Sometimes it is to provide them opportunities to learn." I will arguably continue the quote with, "empowering others with a different set of resources to help your kid learn isn't a parenting fail. It's kind of baked into the cake of parenting."

Summary: responsive parenting is- 1. Prioritizing the emotional development of your tiny human with care and functional tasks. 2. Setting, enforcing, and reevaluating boundaries. 3. Enforcing natural and actionable consequences. 4. Teaching and granting autonomy.

"gentle parenting is the recognition that our job as parents is not to create good kids, but to help them evolve into happy, healthy, stable adults. This begins with respecting our kids as people."

"give the time that is needed rather than what is expected. You can let you and your kid be frustrated without letting either of you give up."

"A parent's job isn't always to teach their kids. Sometimes it is to provide them with a different set of resources to learn. *

"I shifted to a more intentional, responsive mode of child-rearing, keeping in mind that I wasn't raising a child, I was raising a human who was going to need to have her s*** together at some point." 👍

"I mean, you guys have gotten really close. You're a team. Like Laurel and Hardy. Abbott and Costello. Tom and Jerry. Ben and Jerry. Oh, wait - they broke up
Now they're just an ice cream."

Vocabulary
Soporific - adj. Tending to induce drowsiness.

The author had a missed opportunity when they made a joke about being quiet. "Mum as a tombstone." I would not say to change the word mum to the French word m'ere but instead of tombstone they could have mentioned Egyptian burial techniques.