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We humans are prone to being hoodwinked by these illusions, our imaginations running wild. If stimulated enough, appearances can create wild delusions, making us believe that something as simple as an “I’m sorry for your loss “ means people actually care.

Appearances, they’re all around us, dancing on the edge of perception, luring us into traps of our own making. They can lead us to believe our spouses are still smitten, or that our neighbors, ever-smiling, are the epitome of serenity. They keep our true selves shrouded in shadow, never allowing the world a glimpse of our inner darkness.

“The past leaves its scars on all of us, Georgie. But we can’t have those times back. They’ve gone. We can remember with love but we have to stay alive ourselves. We only have this time, now.”

Sam wasn’t my fina straw; she was my first harvest

They deserved so much better, but those consequences are where the rubber met the road - the point of contact where I was willing to take the bad with the good and at times the horribly ugly.

Me telling the rehab group over and over “that’s none of my business “ wasn’t something that came to me in the moment. I showed up with that rule- and took it home with me when I left.

Why am I seeking approval from someone who refuses to see me?

Your happiness is not dependent on someone else’s presence in your life.

If certain topics are too painful, set boundaries with others about discussing your child. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.