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Guilt is a motherfucker.

Gabor suggests Compassionate Inquiry

- Asking ourselves why and how we felt at moments we said no instead of yes and vice versa. Show up when it matters all while not abandoning yourself.

- The 29th chapter which I just finished then proposes Relabeling, Reattribution, Refocusing, Revaluing and Re-creation… as some sort of flow to help us neutralize then canalize self-limiting beliefs for the better.

Liberating!

Was so unsettled after reading 2 previous chapters that I left out my cig pack when leaving home because all I thought of it was was toxin

How does Dr. Maté do it? I mean I already liked him even before picking up this book. But being on Part 3 now, I appreciate even more his way of deconstructing my thought process on disease.

I am starting to internalize I was normal the whole time, even though that in itself could be a concerning statement.

It’s not the drugs, but our relationship with it that is the source of our various misconducts. Relieving!

It starts right before we come into the world. How does dad treat mom during pregnancy? How present is he? And does she feel safe?

Conditions such as stress, depression can be inherited from the mother to baby in uterine

Modern medicine dehumanizes the delivery procedure by stripping women of autonomy over their bodies as opposed to following Nature

Newborns need intentional psycho-emotional development and love

- Stress leads to inflammation which then breaks the autoimmune system and causes disease

- View illness as an external condition affecting you so you get more agency to treat it

- Problematic childhoods make us repress anger and become people pleasers until all that catches up on us. Also makes one seek attention

- Turn self-accusation into curiosity and shame into “response ability”

- Trauma is greek for wound

- All traumatic events are stressful but not all stress is equivalent to trauma.

- It is best resolved by treating it as something happening within [mind-body] as opposed to some external fate from childhood.

- Self-examination and the capacity to identify one’s triggers can get quite handy.

- Practice emotional flexibility; learning not to overreact or “punish” others.