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How cool… and weird would it be to be able to talk to yourself about your shared experiences. The ones both of you had at the same time. From the same body. Even the most private, intimate memories, and thoughts and feelings behind those memories.

How weird to have the SaME EXaCT MeMoRiEs from one singular body.

“I figured it was probably because we both remembered standing in front of the open refrigerator after school, eating pop-pop’s leftovers right from the container.”
No. It wasn’t. 🥺

I like how this character brings herself back to stasis with grounding techniques. Closing her eyes, taking a moment, breathing deeply, changing her perspective to how someone else might see things. It’s nice to see these practices used in a book like this

What would i say to my previous, more ignorant self? I already speak to her in my mind sometimes.. “Why couldn’t you see this? Don’t you care about our future? How could you not think of this, or prepare for that when you had the chance?” What would say to her? How much compassion would i have for her really? Knowing what i know about her, which is everything…

It’s amazing what just a few days of experiences can do to completely change a person’s perspective… How drastically the trajectory of a person’s life can change in such a small amount of time. How differently that person can see the world as a whole with new information, thoughts, or experiences.

I don’t know if I’m going to be able to watch videos of myself the same way… 😳

Holy shit!

“You don’t have to Leap in and try to do something whenever you are uncomfortable. When you’re in a difficult situation, you don’t have to try to make everything perfect. You can just relax with your discomfort. That ability to be with emotional issues is being passionless.”

What does this look like when you’re angry?

Being patient with it. Being still in it. Breathing through it.

“Noticing sensations, for the first time can be quite distressing, and it may precipitate flashbacks in which people curl up or assume defensive, postures.. postures they assumed when the trauma occurred…Individuals who lack emotional awareness are able, with practice, to connect their physical sensations to physical events.”

Abdomen flexing/body jerking = Grief from Jethro’s Death. Where to go from here?

“A dharmic person does not run from emotionally confusing situations… you don’t have to Leap in and try to do something whenever you are uncomfortable… you can just relax with your discomfort.”
I’ve been observing this in myself lately as i meditate.
Simply sitting in the awkwardness has become a type of fun game.
Allowing myself to breathe in and take a pause instead of interjecting unnecessary words.

“The basic discipline that arises out of our meditation practice is to catch ourselves when we get stuck… that discipline, Will, overtime, manifest off the cushion when you notice you are hooked by emotions in the rest of your life.”

This afternoon I was emotionally disregulated. I recognized this feeling, and after 20 min trying to get out, I decided to try to come out of it w/ meditation. It’s working!

“The key way we work with emotions is quite simple: we stay with them, allowing them to pass through us, like a cloud across the sky. We don’t act out on them or suppress them, but acknowledge them as potent thoughts that are ultimately ephemeral”
The hardest part of my last heartbreak was just admitting to myself that I was going through intense pain. It was difficult to admit that i was hurting 💔

“Reality is merely our brain’s relative understanding of the world based on where and how we are observing it.”
Just because i think a certain way about something doesn’t mean everyone else experiences it the same way. My perspective is my perspective for a reason. And it’s subjective to my own personal experience formed from looking through my own personal lens. I have the capacity to change the lens😎

“ remembering why you’re in the game to begin with fuels you when you are feeling disheartened”

This is a great reminder 🤍

“ happiness is not about lying to ourselves, or turning a blind eye to the negative, but about adjusting our brain, so that we see the ways to rise above our circumstances.”

“Be aware of your thoughts as they hunt for someplace to focus instead of on the task at hand.

To be able to create, we must be willing to learn how to quiet our minds, feel our emotions, and stay in the vacuum so the ideas can well up from our deepest place of knowing..

When people change their attitudes, they change their perceptions, and as their perceptions change, they continue to change their attitudes

“Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can.”

“Those who have gone before us become our teachers. We must feed them, he said, by metabolizing this world with our senses, by being alive to life.”

“Most of what stands between us and our creativity is not a negative outer environment, but a negative inner environment.”

“We learn to dispute the negative voices by learning to be still and silent in the moment. The first step is to build a silent inner self that notices the negative voices as they speak.”

“Waiting to be happy limits our brain’s potential for success, whereas cultivating positive brains makes us more more motivated, efficient, resilient, creative, and productive, which drives performance upward”

“Turmoil comes, and if I’m not where I can unravel it, the thing will run wild.”

We must pay attention when there is unrest within our hearts and minds, and make time to take care of those thoughts and emotions in times of solitude 🤍 🙏

It’s been a year since I’ve picked this book up, and since then my worldview has changed so that i no longer find the constant misunderstanding & lack of communication entertaining or endearing. It’s annoying, petulant & pointless.
The cognitive distortions these characters possess are so blatantly obvious & purposefully skewed, it is maddening.
I couldn’t be friends with any of these people 😵‍💫

“when you choose to prove to yourself how powerful you really are, you have no idea who you will be helping in the future.”

“You don’t have to impress us with your courage. We know you are brave.”

The confidence they have in Paul is empowering.
I would like my inner voice to be so strong.
I no longer have to impress anyone. I know i am brave. I know i am competent. I know i am worthy. I know i am reliable. I know i am loyal. I know i am a reservoir. I know i am honest. I know i am peaceful. i know i am pure. I know i am loved

“Both your optimist and your pessimist need to be heard. Taking in both poles of your thinking leads to transcendence.”

I always thought that being “negative” or pessimistic was bad, & to acknowledge that side of yourself is not good. I was taught to hide that side of myself away, and to not acknowledge it at all, let alone engage with it and hear it out. All sides of ourselves have a need to be heard 🤍

“Honesty requires that we not suppress parts of ourselves. We consider unacceptable.”
I have been learning this lately.

I wrote in my journal this morning:
“I am not my unhealthy, or toxic thoughts. I write through them, so that I may see them clearly, observe them objectively, and come to a more well-rounded, and grounded, conscious conclusion.”

“There are few things in life more enjoyable than satisfying one’s curiosity. Think mystery, not mastery. Time-outs are about awakening our sense of wonder. They are not about self-improvement.”
Sometimes I forget to just enjoy life, and relax in the mystery without trying to continually unravel it for some ultimate mastery. If I am going to explore, I want to do it from a sense of awe & wonder 🤍