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“broken” or simply as “bad people,” using their adult-life sexual acting out as proof of how unlovable they really are. They simply don’t understand that their upbringing was lacking and left them without a positive sense of self or needed life skills, and that their problematic sexual behaviors are an adaptive response to what they experienced.”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“Nature: Genetics and the Risk for Addiction”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“alcohol can consume more longer (get higher) without falling down, getting sick, or passing out, and they are, as a result, more likely to drink alcoholically. Another study links a specific genetic variation affecting D2 dopamine receptors, which are part of the rewards center in the brain, to addiction. This genetic mutation, which essentially magnifies the pleasurable effects of addictive substances and behaviors, increases the risk not just for alcoholism, but for all other types of addiction.2 Genetic variations can also reduce the risk for addiction. For instance,”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“family, tribe, religion, etc.17 Sadly, for many people the experience of trauma is chronic, that is—repeated and layered over time. This is often referred to as complex trauma. Complex trauma is especially problematic when it occurs within early family life, which is an”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“(again potentially epigenetics). For instance, abused and/or neglected children have an incredibly high risk for addiction (and other adult-life psychological issues) regardless of genetic influences. Furthermore, the more times a child is traumatized, the greater the likelihood of adverse reactions, such as addiction, later in life. One study found that survivors of chronic childhood trauma (four or”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“97 percent reported emotional abuse, 83 percent reported sexual abuse, and 71 percent reported physical abuse.19 In another survey, 38 percent reported emotional abuse, 17 percent reported sexual abuse, and 16 percent reported physical abuse.20 Obviously, that’s a wide variance between studies. Numerous factors may account for the variation in findings, and most likely the real numbers lie somewhere in the middle. Either way, it is clear that an abnormally large percentage of sex addicts were traumatized in childhood.”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“Hours spent compulsively masturbating to online pornography or pursuing potential sex partners on dating or social media sites and apps are hours not spent developing one’s career, nurturing one’s spouse and/or children, hanging out with friends, enjoying hobbies, and engaging in various other necessary forms of self-care.”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“The simple truth is addicts of all types typically report multiple instances and forms of early-life neglect, abuse, shame, and family dysfunction.18 In one survey asking sex addicts about their childhoods,”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“Sadly, without some form of therapy or intervention, individuals like Denise often don’t make the connection between their childhood trauma and their adult-life sexual problems. Due to this lack of understanding and association, many of these folks think of themselves as”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“intend to destroy their relationships, hurt loved ones, or ignore their kids, or ruin their careers, or mangle their finances, or get arrested, or whatever. Yet they often end up in these very circumstances, arriving there incrementally as their denial escalates. Over time, they grow less able (and less willing) to see the connection between their increasing personal problems and their escalating addictive behaviors. Often”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“interpersonal trauma subtype”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction

“these studies focus on alcoholism, but it is not unreasonable to extend the findings to other addictions. For starters, various genetic mutations can either directly increase or decrease the risk for addiction, usually by altering the ways in which a particular substance (like alcohol) is experienced and processed in the body and brain. In one study, scientists found that people who naturally have less reactivity to alcohol (as measured by body sway) are more likely to become alcoholic.1 In other words, people who are genetically less susceptible to the negative side effects of”
― Robert Weiss, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction