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“Just because I made it here doesn't mean it was easy. And just because I don't seem overwhelmed doesn't mean I'm not”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“It’s not my job to convince others of who I am. My only job is to BE who I am. All I can do is find what makes me happy, and live it.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“That nervousness that makes your palms sweat and your heart race before you get up and make a speech in front of an audience? That's what I feel in a normal conversation at the dinner table. Or just thinking about having a conversation at the dinner table.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Books are where the true magic happens.”
― Jen Wilde

“Anxiety isn't an attack that explodes out of me; it's not a volcano that lies dormant until it's triggered by an earth-shattering event. It's a constant companion. Like a blowfly that gets into the house in the middle of summer, flying around and around. You can hear it buzzing, but you can't see it, can't capture it, can't let it out. My anxiety is invisible to others, but often it's the focal point on my mind. Everything that happens on a day-to-day basis is filtered through a lens colored by anxiety.”
― Jen Wilde; queens of geek

“You are not weak. People like us, we're brave. We're the ones who get up and face our worst fears every day. We keep fighting.”
― Jen Wilde

“I know I'll never be able control what other people think. It's not my job to convince others of who I am. My only job is to be who I am. All I can do is find what makes me happy, and live it.”
― Jen Wilde

“The fear that other people in very scary occasions, reserved only for when they jump out of a plane or hear a strange noise in the middle of the night - that's my normal. ... It's invisible, it's irrational, it's never-ending”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Anxiety isn't an attack that explodes out of me; it's not a volcano that lies dormant until it's triggered by an earth-shattering event. It's a constant companion. Like a blow fly that gets into the house in the middle of summer, flying around and around. You can hear it buzzing, but you can't see it, can't capture it, can't let it out.”
― Jen Wilde

“Yes. I’ve never met another Aspie girl before.… I mean, that I know of. I guess I probably have, just not another girl who knew she was on the spectrum.” I’m rambling, so I stop myself. “Does that make sense?” Josie giggles a little. “Yes, it makes perfect sense.” She stands up and steps closer to the table. “I actually just spoke about this on the Diversity in Media panel. When did you realize you’re on the spectrum?”
“At first, I hated it. I felt like there was no hope, that no matter how hard I try, I’ll never fit in and everything would always be hard for me.”
― Jen Wilde

“You can't pick and choose whose equality you support. That's not equality.”
― Jen Wilde

“I didn't see how much of my self-worth had been tied into that relationship until it was over. The hardest part wasn't leaving her behind; it was feeling like I'd left pieces of myself behind. The only pieces I liked.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“That's what I like most about her; she isn't fearless. She's scared, but she keeps fighting. She has moments of doubt, when she runs away, but she comes back. She doesn't give up. Sometimes she fails, she falls down, she makes mistakes. She's real.”
― Jen Wilde

“I’m surrounded by superheroes. And that means I must be one, too. And everyone knows that no matter what darkness they face, heroes are destined to win.”
― Jen Wilde

“History and experience have proven to me that it's very hard for people to understand, and all too easy for them to judge.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Most people think anxiety as panic attacks. That's not entirely accurate.”
― Jen Wilde

“I let out a long exhale. "It's not like it's the first time I've been called a bitch." I've lost count of all the times people have called me a bitch or a snob, misinterpreting my shyness or lack of eye contact as disrespect or rudeness.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“There's nothing more disheartening than thinking you know someone—on a deep, soulful level—only to find out they're someone else entirely. I started questioning everything. I didn't know if the Reese I knew was real, or if the Reese I saw at parties and in the press was real. To make things worse, every time I brought it up with him, he would say it was all in my head. He had me questioning my own sanity. But once I had learned he had cheated on me, I knew it wasn't my imagination.

I realized he was too caught up in society's game of fitting in, and that's a game I've never been willing to play. No one wins.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“CB: What sets your heart pumping?
JW: Horror movies. Or watching the news, which is kinda the same thing.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I'm the girl no one ever notices. Not in a oh-that-poor-lonely-wallflower sort of way. I'm not sad about it. I'm invisible by my own design.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“A spark surges down my spine. I’m falling for this girl faster than the
speed of light. It’s scary—but it’s the kind of scary that I want more of. So
much more.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I've never felt 100 percent like a girl, but I'm not a guy, either. And I don't see why I have to fit. Why should try to change myself to suit someone else's binary? It's like trying to fit a galaxy into a glass jar. I don't want to be poked and prodded into a glass jar. How am I supposed to breathe like that? right now, I'm poking holes in the lid, letting the light and air in and freeing pieces of me star by star. And one day, I'm just going to shatter it.”
― Jen Wilde

“Social hangovers. It's like a normal hangover, but instead of being caused by too much alcohol, it's caused by too much social exposure and overstimulation of the senses.”
― Jen Wilde

“I started to ask myself if maybe it was just... me. It hit me then that no one who knows and loves Julia will ever know that she once knew and loved me.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Let’s be real; I don’t feel safe in the real world. It’s big and scary and confuses the shit out of me sometimes.”
― Jen Wilde

“Love is intense. You break down all your walls to let someone in. But if they're not good for you, they can tear you up from the inside. And you think what you have together is love, so you let them.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek