Princess Kali > Quotes

“Have you ever noticed that negotiation forms are nearly always activity-based? Maybe you’ve already covered the basics. “Oh, I want to be spanked” or “I want you to tie me up.” But have you explained what emotional state you are trying to cultivate here? Is the dominant looking to feel a sense of absolute power? Control? A level of sadism? Is the submissive looking to feel controlled? Ashamed? Humiliated? Degraded?”
― Princess Kali, Enough To Make You Blush

“What I’m talking about are emotional goals, or what I like to call your kernel kink*. What are you trying to elicit? If your goals don’t complement each other, then even if you’re doing an activity you both like and agree to, you’re going to end up pretty disappointed. If the word “goal” doesn’t feel right to you, you can also think of it as “where do you want to be emotionally during and after the scene?” or “what kind of headspace do you enjoy during play”?”
― Princess Kali, Enough To Make You Blush