Zoe McKey > Quotes

“Don’t bother trying to figure out why someone thinks a particular thing about you. You cannot read their mind, only your own. And if you consider their judgment unfair, invalid, and useless, just put it in your “garbage from somebody who doesn’t know me” drawer and move on.”
― Zoe McKey, Catching Courage: Understand Your Fears, Control Your Anxieties and Make Better Decisions - Use Obstacles To Your Benefit

“People can immediately react in a sudden emergency, run away, yell, kick, and bite and try to protect themselves in some way. When the threat is quiet and remote or bearable in intensity, then they try to adapt to it.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“Derek Sivers, in his TED talk, says that psychology tests have proved that the good feeling spreading in you when you tell your plans to someone will make you less likely to complete them.”
― Zoe McKey, Catching Courage: Understand Your Fears, Control Your Anxieties and Make Better Decisions - Use Obstacles To Your Benefit

“we don’t go from ‘wrong’ to ‘right’. Rather we go from wrong to slightly less wrong… We are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection.”
― Zoe McKey, Discipline Your Mind: Control Your Thoughts, Boost Willpower, Develop Mental Toughness

“Whatever you choose to follow, you’re responsible for your decision. Complaints won’t improve your life.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“4. What do I know about the problem? 5. What are the fields I need to learn about the problem? 6. What could be the hidden traps? 7. How can I correct the deficiencies? 8. How could its possible outcome affect me?”
― Zoe McKey, Discipline Your Mind: Control Your Thoughts, Boost Willpower, Develop Mental Toughness

“1. What is the challenge? 2. Why is it a challenge? 3. Where do I stand on this matter? Am I the initiator or the one being dragged into this story?”
― Zoe McKey, Discipline Your Mind: Control Your Thoughts, Boost Willpower, Develop Mental Toughness

“So how do we use the knowledge we’ve gained about bottlenecks, leverage, and feedback loops? When we identify a bottleneck, we should devote our time to using the highest leverage until the bottleneck is no longer a problem. Then we measure our improvement-detecting feedback loops. Then we move on to clear our next bottleneck. The more bottlenecks we overcome, the less constraining the next bottleneck will be. This is a cycle where each repetition will push us to a higher level of emergence. “Shortly: find your bottleneck, experiment to remove it, repeat.”[ xix]”
― Zoe McKey, Think In Systems: The Theory and Practice of Strategic Planning, Problem Solving, and Creating Lasting Results - Complexity Made Simple

“What if we recognize our life’s inevitable limitations and then prioritize what we care about based on those limitations?”
― Zoe McKey, Discipline Your Mind: Control Your Thoughts, Boost Willpower, Develop Mental Toughness

“Crystalize what your most important goal is and focus your time and energy accordingly.”
― Zoe McKey, The Disciplined Mind: Strengthen Your Willpower, Develop Mental Toughness, Control Your Thoughts, and Get Rid of Your Inner Critic

“Today, you’ll perform at your best. Why? Because there is no reason why”
― Zoe McKey, Morning Routine Makeover: Morning Tactics And Strategies To Get More Energized, Productive, And Healthy All Day

“whatever you do, do it with 110% devotion. Give it your all, be the best, even if you are a street-sweeper.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“Therefore, your identity is the opposite of the things you’re trying to avoid.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“The helplessness around our deceased loved ones can be perpetually crippling until we decide to forgive ourselves, ask for forgiveness in whatever form we can, and find consolation in the thought that our loved one wouldn’t want us to suffer.”
― Zoe McKey, Find How To Be Whole Again: Defeat Fear of Abandonment, Anxiety, and Self-Doubt. Be an Emotionally Mature Adult Despite Coming From a Dysfunctional Family

“It’s our responsibility to make the best out of what we got.”
― Zoe McKey, Find How To Be Whole Again: Defeat Fear of Abandonment, Anxiety, and Self-Doubt. Be an Emotionally Mature Adult Despite Coming From a Dysfunctional Family

“more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid doing it.”[i]”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“You can’t change events, just your perspective.”
― Zoe McKey, Wired For Confidence: Learn To Handle Judgment, Act Against Your Fears And Toughen Up To Own Your Life

“What motivates you? What makes you excited for no reason? Or on the contrary, what gives you a great sense of fulfillment and peace? Find these answers and go for opportunities that serve them.”
― Zoe McKey, Daily Habit Makeover: Beat Procrastination, Get More Productive, Focus Better, and Become Healthier in Body and Mind

“The whole personality is determined by the temperament and character together. Temperament influences the development of the character to a certain point, but it does not determine it.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“Why is important to know which part has the greatest impact if changed? For two reasons. First, if you experience disturbance in a system, you can now know on which level to seek the error that needs to be fixed. Second, if you wish to change a malfunctioning system, now you know what impact your interference will have on different levels. For example, if you have a company which experiences a deficit for years, you know that just changing the employees won’t make a big difference unless they will also have a better work ethic (change on the interconnection level). You can also change the function of your company —you can downsize the company to one worker, yourself. Thus, you can save on employee wages, taxes, etc. However, this way your affair hardly can be called company, rather an individual business.”
― Zoe McKey, Think In Systems: The Theory and Practice of Strategic Planning, Problem Solving, and Creating Lasting Results - Complexity Made Simple

“The more you care and stress about something the lower the chances that you’re actually going to succeed.”
― Zoe McKey, Morning Routine Makeover: Morning Tactics And Strategies To Get More Energized, Productive, And Healthy All Day

“You have two options in handling life. You can choose to run around like a basket-case trying to catch up on everything and accomplishing nothing. Or you can plan, prioritize and execute your top priority tasks and problems.”
― Zoe McKey, Sleep Smarter: Evening Habits And Sleeping Tips To Get More Energized, Productive And Healthy The Next Day

“Enhanced self-awareness: Habitually recording your thoughts and emotional states can help you recognize some behavior patterns. For example, you’ll see what questions or interactions tip you off, and what makes you feel uncomfortable, snappy, or enraged. In other words, you’ll gain more clarity on what affects you and how. Having this knowledge, you can intentionally alter and control your responses to stimuli. Your changed response will create a different – hopefully better – outcome. This is the gist of active self-management.”
― Zoe McKey, The Mind-Changing Habit of Journaling: A Guide for Self-Exploration, Self-Care, and Re-Discovering Your Self-Worth

“If you care too much, you’ll get frustrated, anxious, and enslaved by your high hopes. If you care less, you’ll just do stuff organically without any “what ifs” or stress involved.”
― Zoe McKey, Find Who You Were Born To Be: Explore Your Personality, Discover Your Strengths, Make Better Life Choices Than Suit Your True Needs

“Begin with a decision. Decide that from this moment you will change your life. So far, external events and the impact of the environment influenced your everyday life. Everything that has happened to you today, in this moment, is the result of your previous decisions and thoughts. From now on you will take charge of your life. Control what you can, and control your reaction about things you can’t control. What do you like to do? What can you do right now? What do you need? Answer these questions. When you answer only two questions similarly, you face a situation that requires attention. Think about how can you change to give the same answer to all the three questions. When all the three match it means you found something that adds immediate value to your life. If you promise yourself something, make sure to fulfill it. The greatest disappointment you can feel is when you lose credibility in your own eyes. When a promise is made but isn’t kept, it creates a sense of emptiness, a sense of unfinished business. The worst case is when you don’t keep a promise you made for yourself. It is important to stay credible in your own eyes. Better start with smaller promises. Today I will walk home instead of taking the bus. Or, this weekend I’ll have a picnic instead of watching TV. Then work up to the bigger ones like, I’m going to learn to play the violin. Remember to build up credibility, take responsibility, and keep promises to yourself. If you keep your own promises you cultivate self-respect. Self-respect generates self-love. If you love yourself, you’ll love your innate abilities. If you love them, you’ll love using them. If you love using them, doors will open even in the thickest walls. This is what I call a positive circle. Opening new doors requires new skills. You cannot make a difference in your life relying only on your past. Be opened to new things. Be persistent and do not give up. Vow that you will not give up until you achieve your goal, what you were born to do! The length or difficulty of the road ahead can make a lot of people stop before they even cross the start line. Set off and take the first step. Divide the distance into manageable stages. Do a little bit more than you’re comfortable with. Undertake a little bit more and keep your commitments. Only in this way is it possible to begin to develop a new habit that will make you stronger. Believe in yourself. Believe that you can do it. When you begin to make a living from your hobby, people will tell you things like, “you’ll die of hunger.”
― Zoe McKey, Find What You Were Born For: Discover Your Strengths, Forge Your Own Path, and Live The Life You Want - Maximize Your Self-Confidence

“I will tell you a secret: you will never get caught up with everything you want to do.”
― Zoe McKey, Sleep Smarter: Evening Habits And Sleeping Tips To Get More Energized, Productive And Healthy The Next Day

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― Zoe McKey, Morning Routine Makeover: Morning Tactics And Strategies To Get More Energized, Productive, And Healthy All Day

“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.” So sharing with the right people is essential to creating a safe space.”
― Zoe McKey, Find How To Be Whole Again: Defeat Fear of Abandonment, Anxiety, and Self-Doubt. Be an Emotionally Mature Adult Despite Coming From a Dysfunctional Family

“Persistent self-confident people often achieve much more than those who have the perfect educational or material background.   This”
― Zoe McKey, Build Grit: How To Grow Guts, Develop Willpower, And Never Give Up - Strength Of Character Manual

“If we do something we hate, dislike, or simply feel apathetic about, all five days of our week will be stressful, unhappy or, in the best case, mediocre.   Is”
― Zoe McKey, Find What You Were Born For: Discover Your Inborn Skills, Forge Your Own Path, Live The Life You Want - Maximize Your Self-Confidence