J.P. Castor > Quotes

“Finally, the review is an assertion of power for the boss, affirming she is the evaluator — not a coach or mentor. This is not a mutual relationship where the boss and worker are a team that mutually strive for goals. It is not uncommon for a worker to fail and be fired while the boss, the one who should serve as a trainer, is promoted. There is no partnership — only finger pointing and blaming with the intent of creating feelings of job insecurity and generating threats to illicit more productivity.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace

“And after they’ve raked you over the coals or simply failed to compliment your effort, be sure and tell yourself you did a good job.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace

“the true freedom of this philosophy comes when you are no longer monetarily dependent on an employer.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace

“Expecting less from your boss can lead to being pleasantly surprised instead of horribly disappointed. Once you stop seeing him or her as an all-knowing supervisor who should be mentoring and supporting you without criticism, you can accept them better for who they are — as fallible, human and petty as everyone else, prone to bad judgment and hamstrung by the limitations of their education, experience and ego.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace

“Keeping your personal goals firmly at the forefront ensures you are in the driver’s seat of your career. If you don’t know what you value and what the parameters of your dashboard are, others will define it for you. Breaking or even bending the rules you have established for yourself will always have its price.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace

“In the end, you’ll want the power and leverage to quit a bad situation. And it’s okay to quit. Sometimes it’s the only way to save your health or find out what you truly want to be and do in this life. Maybe you don’t want to do anything except take long walks, hang out with your dog, be artistic or musical and putter in the garden. And you know what? That’s just fine. Take a hard look at that dashboard you created at the beginning of this book and see what you really value. I bet somewhere on there is happiness — and you deserve it. So go out there and… don’t work so hard.”
― J.P. Castor, Tactics in a Toxic Workplace